Fearful kids need ... criticism? Say What???
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Fearful kids need ... criticism? Say What???
| Fri, 08-12-2011 - 4:50pm |
This study done over several years has some intriguing results. Some seem intuitive common sense. Some, not so much, but I'll have to think about that some more.
When parenting style is tailored to the child's personality, the child is better adjusted. OK. That makes sense, and is what parents here have been saying over the years. But there is more in the details...
Key to a Well-Adjusted Child: Tailored Parenting?
If the child has the ability to self-regulate, focus and stay on task, they had more symptoms of anxiety and depression if their mothers were controlling, but if the child did not have this ability, the child had MORE symptoms of anxiety and depression if the mother was NOT stricter, parenting in a more structured way, with tighter reins.
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I think that it all comes down to the fact that parenting is not easy ;)
What do you do if your child meets more than one of these types? If they are irritable and frustrated along with being high fear?
Well, as it says - tailor responses to the needs of the kids. One size does not fit all.
It says:
"For kids who are prone to irritability and frustration, . . . “When parents are low in criticism, these kids ended the study with levels of anxiety similar to kids without high irritability and frustration,” says Lengua.
So what do you do? Criticize their fear, or not?