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Registered: 09-07-2010
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 7:24am

Hello everyone! My name is Abi and I am a WAHM with three beautiful children. My youngest child, Cooper, was born with Esophageal Atresia which was corrected at birth. He now has a G-tube inserted due to severe acid reflux and eating refusal.

He is also very developmentally slow, not walking yet and only saying a few words that are very hard to understand. He is scared of any type of new situation and will 'shell up' if he is nervous or too overwhelmed. When at home and playing with me, his father or his sisters, he is very happy and smiley. The doctor is bordering on diagnosing him with moderate-severe mental retardation but cannot diagnose until he is a bit older.

I am glad to have finally found an active forum community :)


WAHM to:

Lorelai (12/18/2005)

Emily (01/03/2007)

Cooper (02/27/2008)

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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: abigail84
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 2:43pm
Hi Abigail, welcome to the board!

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Registered: 07-13-2007
In reply to: abigail84
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 6:36am

Hi. I read this yesterday and didn't get a chance to respond. We have a... ummm... situation ... we are dealing with. Sigh.

So, I guess I have a big question. Do YOU think he has mental retardation or just severely delayed development? Not, I guess that it really matters. If I have learned anything, it is to simply address what IS - meet the child's developmental needs to the best of our collective ability. My older brother taught me a lot, seeing how he handled having a special needs son... it gave me life lessons to fall back on with my own younger daughter.

It is nice your son has happy, laughing times.

Again, from experience with my younger daughter, I wonder if the early prolonged pain and trauma affects their nervous system far beyond the immediate medical issue, making them more sensitive, emotional - not able to handle stress as well. After all, they have been through so much! I wonder... does the medical profession just ignore that facet? Do we get as parents get blindsided by it?

Looking forward to talking with you some more.