Losing a best friend

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Losing a best friend
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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 9:33am

Gosh, Doesn't it just tear you up to see one of your children emotionally suffering because they have lost a best friend? UGH!

It isn't a boo-boo you can kiss and make better. You watch them cry in grief and pain, and we can only be there for them.... What else?

Have any of you been through this? What did you DO? How old was your child? Do you think anything in particular helped get them get through this?

I think it is especially hard when they only HAVE that one close friend.

Again.... UGH!!!



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Fri, 09-17-2010 - 12:32am
That's so sad :(

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Sun, 09-19-2010 - 10:13am

There was a time after entering middle school with her best friend, she would only play with that one friend. We tried to warn her to play with other children as well. Some of the other kids told her lies about her friend and told her friend lies about her, and they broke up their friendship leaving her devastated. They later understood what had happened but by then, they were no longer real friends... they could never get that back.

I think it is very different to "lose" a friend because of moving vs losing them because they choose to dump you. I moved to many different homes as a child, and then out of the country! My friends did not feel "lost" - just distant. I didn't have the pain of being "dumped" until later, and wow... that HURT!!! Like a break-up rather than a fading away.

This time around, she is surrounded by very very good friends and family. It still hurts, but ... she has other people to go do things with, go see, go BE with. Much healthier.



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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 10:29am

That is totally different, it never feels good to lose a friend in a bad way like that.

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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 11:48am

> they can just pick right up where they left off.

My best friend from college and I are like that. Hmmm... I have a couple friends like that. I like it that way. I also have the other kind of friends that are more hands-on in my life. ... I think the English language is lacking in diverse terminology to adequately label our many types of friendships/acquaintances.