Mental health question concerning teenage son's behaviour

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Registered: 03-13-2012
Mental health question concerning teenage son's behaviour
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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 3:07pm

Hello everyone. I have a concern about my son and am wondering about opinions of whether to discuss this with his pediatrician. For several years now, (he is 15 now) I have been finding numerous stuffed animals with holes torn into their bottoms that have obviously been masturbated into. I did confront him briefly, not really knowing what to say or ask? His father is unsure of how abnormal this is and has spoken with him also. The stuffed animals have begun to become more hidden now. I find them in the woods behind our house, in storm drains, in hidden places in the yard. Im not understanding this and seems weird to me. Thank you for any advise or opinions about this! Im really worried. I also wonder if ADHD is an issue with him, although a seperate issue. There is mental illness in our family. As his mother, I suffer from severe depression and anxiety. I worry about the various ways mental illness can be genetic. Thanks again!

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Registered: 11-09-2011

Hi there!

I'm sorry you're going through an uncomfortable situation.

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Registered: 11-13-2008

Welcome to the board, jablalock :)

Masturbation is a natural thing, especially for boys his age, but as a parent, I would be concerned about the use of stuffed animals. Since you have mental illness issues in the family already, it would probably be a good idea to talk with a psychologist. If anything, it would give you some peace of mind.

What signs is he exhibiting that he is ADHD? Does he have trouble in school with paying attention or getting his work done, are his grades okay? If he does have ADHD and it's causing problems in his life, that can cause self esteem issues, which can lead to other negative behaviors. Finding a pediatric psychologist or pediatric neurologist that specializes in diagnosing ADHD would be a good step to take.

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In reply to: jablalock
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 3:53pm

Your son is using the stuffed animals as sex toys.


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Registered: 11-09-2011
naomi_njw wrote:

Your son is using the stuffed animals as sex toys.

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Registered: 08-04-2001

I agree they should seek outside help - i.e. with the psychiatrist or the therapist - just not with the pediatrician.

As I also said:
If you want to send him to a psychiatrist or a therapist, that is fine.


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Registered: 08-04-2001

I want to also say that often, us parents sometimes need the mental health professionals' help in order to better handle odd situations.

I know that my husband and I needed outside help to work together in coping with our younger daughter's extreme feelings and behavior. We had a therapist, and she had a therapist, and sometimes it was the 3 of us together that had to work things out together.

That's what I meant by we all can use therapy. Life sometimes throws us curve balls.


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