need to know how to help

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Registered: 09-17-2013
need to know how to help
Tue, 09-17-2013 - 3:23pm

Hi everyone I'm new here,

I have a cousin that I feel really needs help but I have no idea where to even start. He seems to have no moral code and will do whatever is necessary to get what he wants. He will lie to everyone without thought...he has even figured out a way to get his breakfast charged to a friends account at school. What really has me concerned is that he just turned 5! He doesn't seem to care or understand that what he is doing is wrong. He can ask his mother permission and turn around and say the exact opposite...even knowing that she can hear...he is so smart I'm sure I was in middle school before I even thought of some of the things he is doing as a kindergartner. I'm not sure if this is something physical/mental or if it is just defiance. We are all at a loss of what to do.

thank you for your help!!!!!

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:49pm

Hi Summersue!  I think your best option would be to take him to a psychologist who deals regularly with children to get their opinion.  Not only can they see if he has any issues, they can also work with the parents and family on ways to deal with his behavior.    The school should be notified about him charging lunch to another student, and they should take appropriate discipline measures with him.   It could be an age thing, but it doesn't hurt to get an expert opinion.