Sibling Bullying

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Sibling Bullying
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Wed, 06-19-2013 - 3:41pm

Continuted bullying by a sibling can be just as or more harmful to your mental health as by peers: 

New research suggests that even when there are no physical scars, aggression between siblings can inflict psychological wounds as damaging as the anguish caused by bullies at school or on the playground. The findings offer an unusual look at an area of family life that has rarely been studied, in part because infighting among brothers and sisters is widely considered a harmless rite of passage.

I can totally see how being the victim of constant mental and physical abuse can be harmful, especially when your parents don't intervene.  How should a parent handle bullying within the household?  What do you think of the findings?

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Tue, 07-02-2013 - 1:15pm

I could totally see this being very harmful to a child. Blood doesn't always mean love, and mean adults have to start somewhere. Parents need to be more aware of when it crosses the line and intervene before both kids are warped, it's not just going to change the victim but the bully as well. 

Chelsea

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Wed, 07-03-2013 - 11:05am

I can totally see how it would be as harmful as bullying by peers.  In fact, I can see it being more harmful.  Afterall, your family is supposed to love you no matter what, right?  It is so important for parents to step in and stop this behavior should they see it happening.  The bullied child needs to know that their parents are there for them and the bullying child needs to know that their behavior is unacceptable. Period.  So sad that some kids have to go through this without help from a loved one.  :(

Faith

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.~ Dr Seuss

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Wed, 07-03-2013 - 11:13am

I honestly think being bullied by a sibling/family members is the worst sort. If you're being bullied at school/work, you have your home to escape to and get things figured out, find help, and so on. At home, where do you turn to? And you're also being forced to be with the bully. Some parents have a blind eye and that is just even more devestating. I'd like to think that as a mom I'll know-see things. If I had this going on, I'd seek help on how to get it to stop. I wouldn't want the bully to get angrier at the sibling being bullied. Definitely a situation that needs to be handled carefully AND swiftly.