Teens & Depression

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Teens & Depression
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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 2:58pm

As I watch my son getting older (he's 13 now) I worry about him becoming depressed or having a lot of anxiety about something going on in his life.

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Registered: 08-04-2001
Sat, 09-03-2011 - 8:47am

Hard topic. What to look for is easier to answer than how to keep the lines of communication open. I think we build a lot of those channels based on our prior relationship with them. The next step is really difficult - listening while largely keeping our own mouth shut. I once started to tell my mom something monumental... something I had bottled up for 10 years, and it took me tremendous courage to even start a conversation about. Perhaps I didn't choose the right words, because she immediately started to contradict me, and I bottled right back up... and it was something I desperately needed therapy about.


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Registered: 08-04-2001
Sat, 09-03-2011 - 8:54am

I also want to add that the home environment remains crucial. That low-key (no yelling - calm talking, peaceful home), and acceptance is still so important. Keep criticism and negativity to a minimum. Home is SAFE. We bite our tongue about any new experimenting they do with their looks. Be stingy with advice unless they ask for it. Have clear expectations.

I think the more we ponder on this topic the more will come to our minds.


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