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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 5:03pm

Is your child currently seeing a therapist?  If so, did you have to try several before you found one that was a good fit?  

My son hasn't seen his since the spring, it started getting harder with sports and I didn't have a ton of warm fuzzies about the sessions.  I do think the 6 months he went has helped, and we'll take him back if it's needed in the future.  I might try a different one though. 

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Registered: 05-27-1998
In reply to: Cmmelissa
Sun, 08-11-2013 - 3:54pm

I think we got lucky with our therapist. Neither child is seeing him now, but I know we can always go back if we need to. He was recommended by the school guidance office when my son was in 6th grade and he saw him for 3 years. I knew he was good because my son trusted him and I felt that he had a handle on things during the parent sessions. Never got a warm feeling, just a sense that he had a plan.

When DD needed help for depression in 10th grade, we asked her to give DS's doctor a try. She said she would, but "If he talks down to me, I'm out of there." They ended up really connnecting, so she saw him for about a year and a half. I think she could use the occasional tune-up session, but she's leaving for college in 2 weeks, and I know there are good mental health services on campus.

My general rule for kids' therapists is that they have to like the person. The parents just have to trust him/her to help. And you also have to have specific goals for ending therapy eventually. If it's an ongoing, lifelong issue such as bipolar disorder, then these goals can include monitoring of medication and the occasional talk-therapy session, but I don't think everyone with a mental health issue needs to have a session every week forever.