Trophies & Ribbons
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|Thu, 09-02-2010 - 9:25am|
We were talking about self-esteem and kids getting tons of trophies.
I received a total of 2 trophies as a child (both academic) which I have kept to this day. As an adult, I added another trophy - for a sports league, and again, I played for years and this time we actually won the league. WOW! And again, it was something I will never ever forget.
One of my children got trophies and ribbons every time she turned around, it seemed, since she was involved in 2 sports and camp. She now (as an adult herself) doesn't even remember what they were for.
But I wonder about whether that was actually BAD to get all those trophies and ribbons? It did not seem to do any damage to get them. It didn't make them meaningless to her AT THE TIME. She was happy at the time, and wasn't that the point - to be happy participating?
So... what really is the downside? Will it destroy their ability to tolerate frustration and disappointment? Or just not add to their ability to take these things in stride? Will it give them unrealistic expectations for success in work and life? Will it make them unhappier in the long-run?
I am not sure what to think!