Why don't bullied children as for help?
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|Thu, 04-19-2012 - 10:18am|
Well, apparently about 1/3 of bullied children do, indeed ask for help. But that still leaves a whopping 2/3 remaining silent. WHY?
If they are being bullied, it makes them feel helpless and weak. To go tell an adult about it, may reinforce that feeling of helplessness and weakness. I find this odd - Wouldn't you think it would empower them to know they could just tell an authority figure? Sort of like us being able to get the police to help us when WE feel threatened?
But then... what about being afraid that the bully will then do something worse to them if they tell? I knew a family who actually moved away from their lovely home - just upped and left, simply because they felt very insecure and threatened by a former felon who moved in next door to them. Just because the person had been in jail was NOT the reason, of course... it is just that the man seemed very hard and threatening still. At least they could move away. Children are often forced to continue being around the bully (or bullIES).
Some may think they will be seen as a "tattletale.
If you found that a child in the neighborhood hit or bullied your child - what would you do? Go to their parents (who will probably do nothing except get mad at you and their child may indeed retaliate against yours)... or ... what?