Worried about your child's anxiety?

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Worried about your child's anxiety?
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Tue, 08-17-2010 - 1:08pm

Do you have an anxious child?

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Wed, 08-18-2010 - 6:37am

I tried somewhat to protect them. The younger one was reading at two, and we realized that newspapers were SCARY! Since she was a natural speed reader, it was hard to hide everything from her, but we did our best, limiting her to the comics pages. We had the same issue with books. I never thought I would ever ever ever censor my children's books, but she was way too young. She wanted to read her big sister's books but her older sister is 8 years older. So, yes, we did censor reading material until she was in elementary school.

I tried to keep it from the kids when the doctors thought I had cancer, but that backfired. The younger one was afraid (anxious) because she somehow knew we were keeping something from her. So we matter-of-factly told her what was going on and that no matter what the family would be OK, and she then was OK.

In fact, she did not become overly-anxious until she was put on a medication for "major depressive disorder" at age 9, and that depression itself was NOT from any psychological/emotional reason. We didn't learn for many many years that this poor kid had some major hormonal, immune, intestinal absorption, etc issues, not to mention her sleep problems which alone can cause so much stress on an organism that many other issues can develop.



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Wed, 08-18-2010 - 6:41am

Now to address the study and article itself which sounds too much like, "blame the parents" and thus lets the medical health system off the hook.

This does not completely explain the rise in these disorders.

Yes, the world is scarier in general, but why blame that on "nurture" since WE also are part of the greater environment. I am sorry, but researchers are always so quick to blame parenting for everything, and the fact is that OUR environment has changed for the worse as well. The family's environment. The FOOD, the crowding. Yes, even BP oil spill.

My siblings and I had what might be considered a rough childhood, yet we all grew up fine. We all are in stable marriages, with really good kids who are now young adults. Yet among us, several of our children have "problems."

One doctor insisted that THOUGHTS ALWAYS CAUSE anxiety. Change the thoughts and you change the feeling. We tried explaining sometimes it doesn't work that way. Sometimes the anxiety is purely chemical - there is the anxiety THEN thoughts to be anxious about. He said no.

But I was on one medication that caused me to repeatedly wake in the middle of the night with my heart thumping and waves of anxiety would wash over me. THEN, I would think of things to feel anxious about. If it weren't for that experience, maybe I, too, would not have understood that we can have some chemical thing CAUSE the anxiety.

I saw an asthma medication cause anxiety and paranoia in one daughter. Thank goodness the GP right away recognized it was two chemicals in the medication that could cause that.

Two friends were diagnosed with anxiety disorders. One's "anxiety" turned out to be a congenital heart problem and the other had an adrenal tumour causing it.

And then there are both of my daughters. That would make you think definitely parenting, right? Even though neither my husband nor I have anxiety? Even though they had good homes and millions of other children don't have good homes yet do NOT develop anxiety? For both of them, there were physical causes, but, perhaps their physical ENVIRONMENT contributed to that as well - chemicals in our foods, chemicals used in plastics. Lack of nutrients in our foods, you name it.

It is so "funny" how psychologists keep trotting out these studies to make it look like everything is "mental," but the hardcore scientific research is often ignored by the general public because the media doesn't jump on it... because it is complicated!

I do not deny that early experiences can form brain connections that affect our feelings. But to blame it all on parenting is such a cop-out.



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Wed, 08-18-2010 - 10:44am

Totally agree.

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Thu, 09-09-2010 - 5:13pm

I am worried about anxiety in my baby.

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