2nd child after one with hypotonia
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| Thu, 11-15-2012 - 5:00am |
Hi all,
My son is 18 months old and has hypotonia/cerebral palsy. This is due to a fault at the hospital during child birth- so it's not genetic!
i was wondering if there are any of you who have a child with special needs but went on to have another child afterward?
me and my partner have said all along we wanted 3 kids but we are aware it will be harder than if Brandon didn't have difficulties. He says it shouldn't stop us tho- which I agree with!
Although my aunty said a few hurtful things like if we had another he/she wouldn't bother with Brandon because he is like this- she doesn't know how well he will do in the future though, none of us do! Don't get me wrong I am going to wait til Brandon is a bit older if we do have another, but still this upset me and wondered if anyone had had another one after having a disabled baby xx
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I agree with your partner that you shouldn't let that stop you. You are right, you have no idea what Brandon will be like. I disagree with your aunt that a new child wouldn't bother with him, if anything, that child will learn empathy and compassion much better than another child would.
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I'm the younger sib of an Aspie who had hypotonia/scoliosis. Yes, my brother needed special attention. No, this was not a problem for me. As youngest, it was all I knew so I didn't know the difference. Plus, growing up with a special needs sib aids the development of empathy and compassion. I also think it inoculated me against a lot of the self esteem issues and shallow priorities of youngsters. Do not let your older child's condition be determinative in your decision whether to have another.
Gwen
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