Can someone help me?

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Registered: 04-22-2008
Can someone help me?
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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 8:20am

I will try and keep this as short as possible. I babysit a boy who is almost 3. He attends a preschool for developmentally delayed children. His mom thinks there is nothing wrong, only that he is a little slow. I think there may be something else there. The only word he says is mama, and refers to only me as that. A little intro. I babysit him over 60 hours a week. I think there may even be a little bit of environmentally handicapped. I don't think she does much with him, she told me last week she doesn't even read to him because he wont sit and listen, so she has never read him a book. I do, all the time! I have bought him special toys that require hand eye coordination and imagination, thinkgs like books with fuzzy pages and such.


He has distinct facial features, nothing like

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Registered: 09-28-2007
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 9:05am

You are to be commended for your concern, but know that you are not the parent and until you can get the parent to accept that there might be a problem, you are in a difficult situation.

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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 10:11am

You're wonderful for caring so much, and yes, I think you're correct in that there's something more going on. The good news is that he is in developmental preschool. Unless it's some sort of private preschool, then you

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Registered: 08-14-2005
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 10:14am

I posted the oral motor therapy ideas under "The Kitchen Table" below.


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Sat, 04-26-2008 - 2:38am

I just want to say that you have been give wonderful advice so far and I don't have a lot to add except to commend you on your concern. Unfortunately, there's not a lot you can do since you're not the parent. He's lucky to have someone in his life who is concerned about him the way you are. : )

It is very hard dealing with parents who are in denial. I've been there when I used to babysit. I had a 4 y/o girl who had some behavioral issues: was hitting and biting my kids and her baby brother. I brought this to the attention of the mother and she blamed the environment I had in my home for the behavior and a lack of supervision(Hahaha!). A year later, this little girl was riding home on the bus behind my then 8 y/o daughter and kept hitting her on the head. I reported it and apparently, she got kicked off the bus for the rest of the year due to my complaint being the 3rd complaint by a parent. LOL!

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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 9:00am
Thank you so much for your advice and help. This has been such a busy month. I have tried sooo many new things, and he's now up to 7 words. I can't tell you the relief I have. I also have him making eye contact. I'm the only person he will make eye contact for, but its a start. I also called his school, they sent the mom home a paper, and she wouldn't sign it, but I send notes every day he has school with improvements I see, and they are able to at least say we see wonderful improvements. So, its getting there. I will not be watching him much longer as I will be starting back to school, so I am just trying to show his mom some excitement and pass some of the ideas to her in hopes she will take the head start and run with it! Thanks again.
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Registered: 04-09-2003
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 10:29am

I was curious to know what type of facial features he has. He may have some type of other genetic syndrome going on and it would be helpful, for his future education, to know what it is.


Glad to hear he's picking up some new words!


Kris

Mom to Truman, 17 mos, Williams syndrome