6 mos of lvl 1 swim (now 8 yrs old)

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6 mos of lvl 1 swim (now 8 yrs old)
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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 8:55pm

How can I help my DS, now 8, learn to put his face in the water. He's been in the pool 3x/week for 6 months and he still will not jump into the pool or put his face into the water. I watch him & see he has the ability to swim, IF, he were to put his face into the water. Instead he can get 2 strides, pulls his face up & he's done.

My DD (5yrs) is also a slow swim learner & was more fearful of water than he was ... but she is now dunking in, going down water slides, jumping in & can swim a foot or two. This is upsetting my DS.

We tried the OT thing, only one our insurance covered in our area & she was not worth the money. Seriously, we were there for 3 mos and she never even got his goals together. For 2 months she said it was already she just needed to compile into a report. She never sent her info to our gen. doc like she promised & often cut our time in 1/2 (if she showed at all) and charged me for a full hour.

I cannot afford OT w/o insurance & his school says he doesn't qualify for the school OT.

He's really progressed in other areas of SPD, except for water on his face & food (which I doubt we'll ever over come).

Any ideas on how to get him to accept water on his face? I'm tired of watching him become so sad b/c child after child enters the swim classes & moves on. I'm also tired of teaching him how to quit, as he's already quit so many other things due to other kids surpassing him. So I decided it's time to stop quitting with swim as this has more to do with safety than any of the other sports he's tried.

TIA




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Tue, 05-11-2010 - 3:21pm

EXCELLENT!!!

My DS just barely finished 'horn therapy' from speech therapy & I'm not sure if he was really ready to be done. He was really struggling with the last horn. This would be a GREAT continuation from the therapy as it just ended this week.

Maybe that is why he seems to be doing so-so with dunks, but face down floats are such a struggle.

It was interesting though to see when he was working hard on doing his belly breathing how big his chest expanded once when he put the air in the wrong place. I know he can get a lot of air in ... but the control of letting it out.

I'll do this tonight. I would think the larger the tube is in diameter, the more difficult too. So I may find some tubing for a step after the staw.

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Nobody can help my DS w/his eating except himself.

That was the main focus of his OT therapy. I even had him see a child psychologist. Right now it's bread - but only 3 mos ago he wouldn't touch bread. Where as 9 mos ago it was his main food source. I guess he gets on food jags still. Because as far as taste, texture, temperature, etc - all of those change. The only nearly consistent accepted food is chocolate, though he did go through a phase where he couldn't look or smell anything that made him think of chocolate.

Man his smeller is good. There was one time Skippy was on sell so we bought it instead of Jiffy. Did not ever once let him see the jar, so he would have no idea it was different. Before the PB ever even touched his tongue he could smell it was different & freaked.

He wont' touch food either. So it is texture was well. But it's an association with food. B/c if it's not food I can have him touch/play with all sorts of textures.

He is starting to eat pepperoni and getting excited about the flavor ... so we may be moving away from the general white/bland foods soon :) Oh! and a couple of weeks ago he started to accept jelly on his sandwiches. Now says PB w/o it is boring !!!

So maybe the herb thing would be a good idea. I'm really hoping to get an herb garden this year. I'll include mint & that chocolate mint herb too. Those would be the good ones to get him started with.

Thanks again for all the great ideas.




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Tue, 05-11-2010 - 2:16pm

Hi there! My DD is 7 and has SPD...she LOVES the water and doesn't seem to mind getting her face wet BUT when I read your post, one of the therapies from her OT popped into my head. Maybe this will help.


Our OT gave us a rubber hose it's about 1-1/2 feet long. DD is supposed to put one end

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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 3:31pm

ooooh that is a good idea.

I think for my DS it is more the eyes & nose in the water at the same time. At first it was the ears getting wet. I used to get wax ear plugs for bath time, but he hated those too. So we went with using a hand towel to cover his eyes, nose & ears when I washed his hair.

It's frustrating as when he first started to reject baths everyone said it was a temporary, normal behavior. I'm never sure how much my DD picks up from her big brother, but until they started swim (ages 4&7) every bath was a NIGHTMARE!

Maybe, just maybe, if we can get one major goal behind him, he'll finally be willing to put a little food into his mouth. Right now he basically eats bread.




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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 12:23pm

Thanks. I had him come up with those ideas last night (tried to have him own the ideas.)

Showers was something he would NOT do before swim, but since he started swim he wont take baths any longer, LOL. I would think some water gets in his face from this.

Last night I ended up putting him in the tub w/his suit one (as a Mother's Day gift). I put the water about 2", had him lay in it for a few and then asked, on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 comfortable), how do you feel? He said 1. So I turned on the water & told him to tell me when to turn it off. He let it get high enough to barely touch his ears. He was at about a 3 & I had him belly breath. Then he finally told me he got it to a 1 so I turned the water on again. He was able to lay on his back and let the water gently get onto his eyes every now and then, and he started to belly breath on his own.

I had him roll over & try to get his face in the water ... didn't work so well (so far he can float on his back pretty well, so I already knew that would be less bothersome). He then told me he was done and wanted to stop, so I let him.

After he got dresses I asked him what would be a good enough reward to place his face into the water for 10 seconds, lift his head, take a breath & place his face back in, repeat 5 times. He came up with $5. I asked him what he could do to work his way up to meeting his goal.

Washing his face with a wash cloth, splashing water on his face & taking more baths was decided. And then I reminded him he has 30 minutes in the pool, most of his sitting on the side holding onto the wall ... that if he wanted a better swim lesson, he would need to push himself on his own & not just wait for this teacher to work with him.

I then told him, come this next Sunday, we'll test again, but even if he kept his face under water for a count of 3 & only once, he's doing better than today & working toward his goal. To not expect the $5 by Sunday & to be proud of himself for every step he takes to reach his goal.

I hope this works ... sometimes the reward work better than anything in this world & other times it can become another form of failure in his mind :(




"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng



"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng