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|Wed, 10-01-2008 - 9:09am|
Hello all. I just lurk here, but I really need some advice, and for lack of knowing where else to go I have come to you.
Here is the issue, my 6 year old son David is weird. His teacher and I call it "Davidish" because there really isn't any other way to describe it.
Backround: David was born about 5 weeks premature. This was induced, the Dr.s kept him in as long as they could. Point being it was planned, the doctors were well prepared for his issues due to the prematurity. Unfortunately they weren't nearly as prepared for his other problems. He was in the hospital for 3 months. He had a central line for 3 months after we took him home. He received an experimental medication as a last resort. That experiment saved his life. It also caused some nerve damage, and because of his rough start and having a central line when he should have been rolling over, he has always been a little delayed.
Fast forward to now: David is 6 he will be 7 in March. He is healthy. He started pre-k on schedule at 4yrs. old, despite his minor delays. He was not nearly ready at the end of pre-k for kindergarten, so he went to what our school calls "transitional kindergarten". Transitional kindergarten teaches on a kindergarten curriculum at a slower rate in a smaller sized class with more teachers aids as well as more OT and PT in the room. David has a 504 plan that gives him PT 3 times a week. Now to our issue... David is very smart. He scores above average on intelligence and reasoning tests, and at a first or second grade level academically. But he is weird. He is immature, he has no concept of personal space, his social skills are lacking, he is very impulsive, and even seems to have some compulsive tendencies. Our oldest son has ADHD, so David was tested for that. The DR. says he has it and put him on meds. I believe he might have ADHD, but if so that's not all he has. There are things that just don't fit that diagnosis. The meds were terrible, and they didn't last long. He was awake for about 36 hours straight, and we changed to something else. That made him more moody, and his compulsive behavior increased...a lot. We took him off that too and went looking for better answers. This past summer the OT from the school came in and did sensory defensiveness training with us. We had to brush him every 2 hours for a little over a month, and institute a sensory diet. It has helped on some things. David doesn't have to spin around to answer a question in class anymore. He just rocks now which is less disruptive. He doesn't rub his forearms on the edges of the desk constantly anymore. He can go in bare feet now sometimes. He does chew on stuff more, and he still has no concept of personal space, and all the compulsive stuff seems to be amplified. This past week was a really bad week for touching others, and playing rough. I got a call home about hitting for one thing. But academically David is still way ahead, and socially he is still way behind. How long do we continue to hold him back in school because of his social issues? Is he ever going to have a friend? What goes on in his head, and is there a better way to help him, or understand him. I love my son. He has a wonderful imagination, and is very intelligent. I don't want to change that, but there has to be a way to make it easier for him to get along. Where do I turn next? Any suggestions, help? The school seems to be at the end of their suggestions.