ANy sleeping suggestions

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ANy sleeping suggestions
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Thu, 10-08-2009 - 5:20pm

So my son (20 months) has slept straight through the night less than 10 times since he was born. We told our OT that today and she was shocked. She says it is probably due to his SPD. Any suggestions on how to help him (and us). We do run a humidifier and music. Anything else?

It's my gut feeling (and has been since he was little) that he isn't comfortable on the hard mattress in his crib. He sleeps find in our comfy bed.

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Thu, 10-08-2009 - 7:34pm

Ahhh...the lack of sleep. I know the feeling. Gabe has maybe slept through the night 2 times in his LIFE!!! Almost five years. He used to get up in the middle of the night and want to play...now he gets up and comes and gets in bed with me. He does not fall asleep on his own. Gabe has to play with my hair in order to go to sleep. I know with him the warmth of DH and my body and the fact that he is squished between us makes him feel more "together" Gabe needs deep pressure and tight places to feel safe and calm. I am guessing that's why he doesn't/can't sleep in his own bed.

We used to do deep pressure before bed and then swaddle him in his blanket...but it didn't really work because while he likes to be squeezed he doesn't like blankets on him. I don't really have any other ideas. A weighted blanket is something you can think about too....some kids do really well with that.

Sorry I can't help you more....



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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 11:17pm

Hi-

Have you tried a weighted blanket? That helped Kaia a lot.

Kaia has SID, Marin does not but we follow the same rules for her as we do Kaia for bedtime. We have a very strict routine at bedtime, for instance my kids both go to sleep between 7:15 and 7:30 every night. Maybe once every 2-3 months we deviate from that, but I think the structure from that helps them to know when sleep is.

I get a lot of complaining from my in-laws who always want to meet for dinner at 6:30, but I just wont do it. Both of my kids sleep 12 hours a night, and my younger daughter also takes a nap in addition to that although she is giving it up right now. They know when bedtime is and that is it. We had to do crying it out with both of them when they were younger, but I really think the routine, of bath, read a book and bed has helped. I don't like music in the room because it tends to make my kids more excited than relaxing, but the white noise or fan really helps.

We also make the room toasty warm, we have little heaters in their room since they always take their blankets off.

I hope some of this helps.
Alison

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Fri, 10-09-2009 - 1:56pm
Thanks so much. We have always been pretty strict with Nolans schedule throughout the day (meals, naps and bedtime). Same time every night we will get into our PJs, have a bottle and watch a show he really like because they sing and dance. This is the ONLY thing that gets him to stay still - he is incredibly active. Well, our OT thinks that's not the best thing because its stimulating his brain. So we are going to try book and music instead. I am nervous though b/c he usually wont sit still for a book or anything for that matter. I dont want to have to restrain him either.
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Registered: 10-13-2009
Tue, 10-13-2009 - 4:01pm
Our son has melatonin before bed it helps a lot in settling down or he would just sit there wide eyed until his body gave up. No matter how much you run him around before hand lol.


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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 10-13-2009 - 9:52pm

As you can see, you are not alone. There is a great book "Sleepless in America: Is your child misbehaving or missing sleep." It is NOT about a method but it has some good ideas.

For us, it was tonsils coming out at 4.5 that made a difference.Sounds drastic, but it was what worked for us.

The sensory ideas are good too, as is the schedule. For a while, we gave into sleeping with us.DS went to bed, but came up in the middle of the night. Could a wet diaper be bugging him?

I highly recommend this book...I wish I had read it earlier.

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Tue, 11-24-2009 - 1:05pm
No real suggestions, but I am there too! DS only slept through the night maybe 5 times in 3+ years! He would wake up every 2 hours crying, sometimes not, but usually upset. He still comes in our bed every night/early morning. He at least is no longer distraught over it and calmly comes in and goes back to sleep. We were putting him back, but he just keeps coming in...to the point of trying to scale baby gates to get to us. Good luck, I am with you!