Can stress cause dramatic changes

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Can stress cause dramatic changes
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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 8:56pm

TJ has been very tense today. All the "normal" activities to calm him have not worked. He even was upset on his exercise ball. His dt noticed it too. So I guess my question is this-can stress cause changes in the kids? Dh and I have had been in a heated arguement for the last 2 days. This is the only thing I can think of that can make him so tense and aggitated. He seems ok for a very short time and then he loses it. I ave no idea what is causing this. He hasn't been this bad since starting with his ot. Dave (his ot) comes in the morning so I will ask him but I cannot help but feel like I am actually hurting him now. Thanks for listening. I am very upset that I am at the cause.

KAthy

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Registered: 11-16-2004
Fri, 01-14-2005 - 1:15pm
Kathy, try not to be upset with yourself. I think our kids with SI issues are very very unpredicable. When Marissa's OT asks if I think something is helping, etc, my answer is almost always "I don't know, I"ll have to think about it". She is so variable. I do think Marissa reacts to my stress. But when I figured that out, I tried to make sure I wasn't too preoccuipped and short tempered with her etc. Does that make sense? I would try some stress reducing things for yourself and hopefully it will help TJ too.
Michele
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Registered: 09-30-2004
Fri, 01-14-2005 - 2:59pm

Kathy, it's ok..


I feel that it's totally normal for our kids with SPD to 'feel' the raw emotion of anger/hurt/disappointment.


Eventually they'll need to learn that the world does not revolve around them & their needs solely, even if we try our damndest to cater!


Madison indeed knows when I'm stressed out or completely impatient with her. She feeds on the negative energy & often I need to examine where I'm at before I head into her room each morning. I give myself time-outs more than I'd care to admit-but raising 3 kids is very hard & we ALL have our crosses to bear, you know?


Let yourself off the hook, it's ok to be humble, but it's ok to have all types of feelings--just process them as much as possible with him. (Puppets are perfect for that!)



Colleen~ Mom of Morgan, 10 -- Madison, 6 & Maxwell, 3


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Registered: 11-01-2004
Fri, 01-14-2005 - 10:21pm

Kathy,


I absolutely think disagreements in the house can cause extra emotions on our kids.