Debating OT, thinking play therapy again

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Debating OT, thinking play therapy again
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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 12:55pm

I'm getting frustrated with OT. I do not feel it's doing much. DS has grown a lot from Jan until now (educational wise), but according to his teacher (parent/teacher conference yesterday) this is the 'natural' time kids catch up with one another. She said this on her own, not me asking questions.


He's been in OT since January. The OT said she'd have an evaluation done at the end of the month, at which time we'll go over the goals and hopeful goal dates. Every session since the end of January she apologizes she has not had time to finish his assessment. March is nearing the end & no set goals as of yet.


Then when we get to our session she's busy getting things together so that I would guess in the 1 hour session she actually spends 10-15 minutes one on one with DS.


She had originally stated he did not have small motor skill problems, that is was motor planning. Now she says it is motor skill. Without really watching how he's writing now she wants me to buy one of those things (from her & pricey) you put on the end of the pencil to learn how to hold it correctly. Thing is, he already




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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 7:05pm
It doesn't sound like the OT is the greatest and may be more of a hastle than it is worth :( As a parent you know your child best and I'm sure you could do more than the OT :) You are such a great mom that really comes across in all your post :)
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 10:11pm

I went through some of the similar frustrations with an OT.

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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 10:54pm
I am so sorry to hear that this has been your experience with OT. Whether insurance pays or not, I would certainly like to hear that your child is getting more one on one time than you report here. SHEESH! I am frustrated for you. This was my fear with OT - our insurance does not cover so we would be paying out of pocket and I was afraid it would not be worth it. I am with you on trying to find ways to help on our own. I have a friend who is an OT and I ask her for ideas all the time. I believe there are ways we can help our children and make a difference - we know them better than anyone! Together we can do this!
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:43am

LOL, so yesterday I felt she was more focused & did not dare cancel, but I'm still think about doing it later this week. I even had every single item I needed to return with me.


Then I analyzed after we left. She started 5 minutes late. Then she took 5 minutes to make a personal phone call & then she ended the session 5 minutes early. So there is 15 minutes lost right there. Then there was all the note taking & discussing and complaining I'm not doing enough at home b/c my son has not progressed. All of that probably took about 10 minutes. So ... a 60 minute session, 35 spent one-on-one with my DS, which most of it was spent trying to get him to take a small bite of bread.


Last night we had major issues at the table again. Haven't had that in a long time. I think it's b/c the OT has now made our 3 item plate (center table for DS to sniff & lick) into a 8 item plate. These are all different foods for me to prepare at EVERY meal. So, on top of making dinner or lunch or whatever, I'm also making hot dogs, grilled cheese sandwish, toast with peanut butter, scrambled eggs, etc. Then I forget to brush & 'jiggle' his mouth before he eats & then wash his face afterwards ... I'm exhausted. She's never had children, it's obvious, she doesn't understand how hard it is to cook ONE meal with kids at your heal.


I've also learned my lesson on not telling her about my own ideas I do at home or she'll commandeer my idea. For example, the whole reason we've gone from 3 foods to 8 is because I told her about how I'm working on the 4 food groups with him. Keep record & trying to at least lick what he's supposed to be eating. Next thing I know she's coming up with 2 proteins, 2 fruits, 2 veggies, etc for every meal & then scorning me when I don't follow her agenda.


She took something we were having fun with & made it work & completely UNfun.


Okay, I'm venting a lot here, guess that is a sign I really need to move on. Doesn't help my DH no longer believes this is the correct road. He changed his mind when she cancelled a session & reset on a Sunday. So b/c we always go out together as a family on Sunday he came along & the first thing he sees is her pushing me to buy this & that & telling me my son needs to have it. He walked out & has been unsupportive ever since.





"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng