Do you ever wonder

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Do you ever wonder
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 10:03pm

what things may come for your kids and their needs now?I was thinking tonight about Christopher and How much I hope and pray that his troubles become less and less as the years go by.I wonder if he will ever be able to wear anything but cotton.I wonder if he will do well in school.I think to myself Boy this kid would make a great football player if he ever learns to catch a ball.I just hope whatever happens that we can make it through the day and when we lay our heads to rest at night I will be able to tell myself I have done the best I can and wow I have a happy preschooler,gradeschooler,teenager,young man.And I am so glad he is mine.

But I am also scared for him.I want the very best for him and I want people to love and respect him and I want him to be able to do everything that anyone eles can.I guess I shouldnt worry about tomorrow but I do.I think what if something happens to me,or dh or both of us who would care for him?I should also stop what ifing everything to death.Does anyone here have older kids?How are things going for them?Am I being silly for wondering these things?Do things get better with age?I had lots of time to think tonight I GUESS.tAMMY

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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 1:59pm
Tammy,
I do wonder the same things. I do try to stay optimistic(though it's sooo hard some days). I think it only shows what kind of loving, caring, concerned parent you are. Hang in there and have confidence in yourself. I'm sure Christopher feels very blessed to have you!
Sherri
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 3:41pm

Yes, Tammy - My mind is constantly working....what will happen when he goes to kindergarten, are people going to accept him, will he have friends, what will he be like as a teenager, adult, will he be happy? It is so hard. What helps me is having a strong support system. If I didn't have my mom, sister and husband (plus a great slp) - I would be a basket case. Try to stay positive. Thank God Christopher has you as his mommy!!!

Kim

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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 7:02pm

I have a great example of someone who has sensory issues combined with high intelligence and a learning disability....my husband. Whenever those wheels start turning in the middle of the night for me, I think about how capable, sucessful, etc my husband is. And then I remember that he did it all without loving parents or a school system that even acknowledged ld or sensory issues.

I guess I'm saying that I look at him and figure that if he did it, ds can too-and he has so much more going for him. We celebrate what he is good at-football NOT being one of them (lololol) and don't worry about the rest. Who cares if he doesn't excell at sports? So what if he struggles through school? He'll find his niche, and we'll be there to support him when he does.

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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 7:04pm
very good point guys.thanks tammy
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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 8:30pm
Yes, I wonder all the time in fact far too often I believe. I think they will grow out of and get accustomed to some things. But I think they will always have their little quirks. What adult doesn't? I'm with ya on the football thing... my son is built to play. Yet he can't catch a ball to save his life or even try to catch it. Things will change in time I am sure, but I think there will be new issues with them. Good luck
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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 11:18pm

thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!! I can't explain how much your post touched me. It was awesome to read it. Thanks for sharing such a wonderful success story! We need to hear more of them.

Thanks again!

Kim

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 7:25am

Tammy,


I think things do get a little better with age, but that is not to say new things don't arise along the way because that is sort of how things work.