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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 1:32am

O.K. so I've been wanting to ask this but didnt want to "open the book".

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 6:30am

First off...love the new picture....and that hasn't been thrown at gabe yet...but there is a strong history of bipolar and manic depression on DH's side...his mom and my step daughter (doing much better now that they have her meds worked out!!) anyway...my neice had/has severe sensory issues...which have led to OCD tendencies...she also suffers from facial/body/verbal tics...and she is ADHD/ODD and on antidepressants...and I would have to say....she ended up on some of those meds because no one understood her

Jessie Mommy to Gabe (5.8 yrs old ASD, CAS, SPD) and Zane (1.10 yrs old ESD)

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 8:58am
Okay Here goes. Like I've said many, many times I have dealt with SPD for a long long time now. I have come to realize that sometimes there are underlying conditions and it never hurts to have that looked at. I have also learned that at times doc.'s are too quick to "label" these children with something else. I knew someone once who's daughter was put on a very strong drug for bi-polor at four because she said she wanted to kill her brother. Never tried it or anything just said once I want to kill my brother. Now I remember as a child many times threatening my brothers life, like when he wrote on my dolls etc. I have a hard time excepting a mental diagnoses for a child under 6. Their imaginations are all too live and they have no real concept of "exceptable" behavior so to say. I mean they know right from wrong but they get cranky, and hyper. and then with SPD this intensifies the anger and stress and hyper activity. Now on the flip side my little brother has many mental conditions plus SPD and to tell the truth there were no signs of this when he was a child, it developed more as he hit puberty. Now I am not a doc. and I'm not saying your son may not have it. I agre with pp sometimes you have to go with your gut and always, always get a second opinion!!!!!!

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 11:14am

{{hugs}}


Oh this is hard ... the whole reason I didn't look into what else could be my DS's problem was because I feared bipolar, as I know sensory issues can be an early sign of mental illness. So I feared away from researching, but then as he started school I was afraid he'd be mis-diagnosed as ADD or ADHD, so I started to search and found SID/SPD.


If you start breaking down the statistics your DS only has a small chance he's bipolar. I know when it is one parent it




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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:22am

thanks so much for you responses.

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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 8:54am

Just found your thread, but will try and respond later. We are LIVING this, and I must say our results are positive. Another book to read is "The Ups and Downs of Parenting a BiPolar child." (Even if this is NOT what it is for you, the ideas are good!) also I am a fan of "The Explosive Child."

Will try and respond more later.

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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 10:39am

Honestly, until I read the site I gave the link for, I had never read it was less likely with later signs of bipolar. This one site actually made me feel better about it all & hopefully worry less myself. It runs on both my & my H's side of the family so I do try to watch for signs. But currently my children are so happy I cannot see depression in them anywhere. Bipolar is a depressive disorder, so I would think one of the first signs is depression.


GL ... it could always be ignorance.


Want to know what my doc said to me??


I asked him about vesectimies(sp) and he asked if I knew I was done. I told him I didn't feel done, but with my H's illness and seeing he's done I need to accept it. The doc said something like, 'oh, to help clean out the gene pool.'


SAY WHAT!!!


That was not my thoughts at all. I was thinking of the strain on myself. Taking care of my H, dealing with my sister's bipolar, understanding one or both of my children may have it. I was thinking how much stress I could deal with.


In that one comment he insulted my entire family, children included.


Where would this world be without mental illness? Some of our greatest scientist and artist suffered a MI,




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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 10:55am

My son just turned 5 and about a year ago we saw a downward slide in behaviors and needs. For a LONG time we isolated his needs as speech and blamed some behaviors on frustration. However, we finally got a good Dx of Sensory needs and dyspraxia. He made some great progress, but things still really kept going downhill behavior-wise. Then, we got a Dx of "emerging bipolar" though we did not want meds.

Things kept deteriorating (like two steps forward and one step back and then antoher!). He was having panic attacks and fits that were painful to watch. Finally, he had a "fit" while we were at the Pediatrician and it was not pretty for anyone. The Ped was great and concerned and we tried some meds and they worked and made life so much better for all of us. However, these meds were meant to be short term. When we went off them we really realized the positive impact they were making. (DS went to school, was having fewer fits, was just more flexible, and best of all, he was learning!)

Last week we FINALLY got in to see a Developmental Ped. because I did not want to leave this meds issue in the hands of a pediatrician. SHE was amazing and helpful and great. We are now trying new meds and I have to say I feel great about it! I don't know if it is bipoloar, but there is something that is not balanced with my son and the meds give him a chance to experience a childhood that he deserves. I hope the meds aren't forever, but to get him what he deserves and give him a sense of happiness I am willing to try.

Check out the Mood Disorder and BP board, lots of information and ideas there too. (And not all on meds!)

Hope this helps you as you figure out what is right for your child...I too have a red-head!

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 3:10am

I have questioned myself, if God gave me a heads up on the disorders/disabilities I'd be facing with my childeren, would I have gone through with it?

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