husband against diagnosis!

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Registered: 07-08-2011
husband against diagnosis!
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Fri, 07-08-2011 - 2:49pm

I really could use some advice!

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Registered: 04-28-2010
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 1:13am

Hi, I'm new here but I just wanted to offer you some support. I know what you are going through my son is 4 years old too and my husband refuses to see that my son has SPD. I have been secretly taking my son to his OT appointments. I understand how difficult it is to be in your position and not have any support. You are being a great mom by supporting your son and addressing his needs. I don't know why men sometimes find it so difficult to accept that their children need assistance and therapy to deal with this disorder. I'm not sure if counseling is an option, my husband doesn't believe in counseling but if your's is open to it that may help. I'm sorry that you are going through such a difficult time, please try to be strong as I've found that children with SPD are very sensitive to things around them. I hope that things get better soon.

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Registered: 03-31-2011
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 9:12am

Hi, I'm kind of new here too. I have a 3 year old son with Sensory Integration disorder.Is there any way you could get your son into an integrated preschool program? he could get all of his therapies at school and your husband would just see preschool. My husband doesn't see a problem with our son either but as I told him, it won't hurt anything he sort of lets me handle it and doesn't do anything against it. Good luck. It must be very difficult.

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Registered: 09-27-2007
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 7:52pm

Hi, I don't post here often, but I felt I needed to respond to your post.

Jessie Mommy to Gabe (5.8 yrs old ASD, CAS, SPD) and Zane (1.10 yrs old ESD)

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 5:13pm
Hi loveschai, I just wanted to welcome you to the board. You've gotten some great suggestions from the other members, I hope you know that we'll be here for you when you need to vent or a shoulder to lean on.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 3:12pm

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Registered: 01-23-2004
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 3:59pm

Hi There!

I don't know much about your son's specific diagnosis, but I have worked with several families over my career that had a similar attitude as your husband about their children's diagnoses.

 

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Registered: 10-27-2006
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 2:35pm
((HUGS)). My DH isn't quite as unsupportive, but he often comments that he's afraid we're overdiagnosing or that one day he just wants to give my DS (who has a dairy allergy, confirmed by GI and allergist) some cheese and see what happens. Eek. I think for him it's fear of stigma -- nice middle class people like us don't have kids with problems. He's slowly coming around. It actually helped to have my DD's preschool teacher suggest OT. When I brought it up I was paranoid mommy. When she did it was taken seriously. I can only imagine how tough it is!