I am feeling so sad today

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Registered: 05-02-2003
I am feeling so sad today
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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 9:24am
I just dont know what to think.All of my freinds(not like I had many to start with)do not want to get toghter with us any more.When we found out what was going on with Christopher they started droping like flies.They said Well sorry my little guy/gal picks up to many bad thing from Christopher when we get toghter so we cant get toghter any more.I have tried all week to get someone to go out to lunch with us for Christophers birthday and I get this from them.(Had only 3 freinds here to begain with and I guess all of them where not very good ones)Then ALL and I mean ALL our faimly forgot Christophers birthday.(We had the party on Sat. but his B-day was monday)No One called or sent him a card.My parents and sister did come to the party but everyone eles did come because they didnt want to, lived to far away,or forgot.I feel so sad for him.The faimly always rembers dd b-day. with phone calls cards and comes to the party(those who live close enough come to the party.Then also call on her b-day.)All I got when I asked why didnt you call him he waited all day Oh I forgot.Well screw them all.I am a good person.I try to do what is right,I try to be a good mother,wife,daughter,sister,freind and everyone always craps on me and my family.Why I ask Why.Why do people have to be so mean.I could relly use my freinds and faimly now but no they all just up and leave.I guess I need to stop complaining and get out there and make new freinds.It is so hard to do though,(we move alot 6 times in the last 5 years we have moved because of dh job)I just needed a shoulder to cry on I guess.I guess I will take Christopher out ot lunch just the two of us and have a blast with him.Maybe I will call the mommy and me group now that our tuesdays have opened up again(no in home teachers comeing any more) and try that out.I just dont understand how people can be so mean.Thanks for linsting.Tammy
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Registered: 09-30-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 12:23pm

Tammy,


That is very sad..


I understand, I do. People are very crude--although the reality is, the kind of fairweather friends you talked about, are NOT the ones I'd want to surround myself with anyway--those kind of friends you could never rely on when the count is down.


We've experienced tons of bumps along the road for Madison -- and we've found that it's best to dabble in friendships lightly & keep the Mom's at bay -- I've learned my lesson, I *cannot* try to muster friendships with the Mom's of Maddy's friends at school, but keep a fair distance.


My true friends take the time to understand Maddy -- they ask questions & show compassion & support -- Maddy has been ousted by the 'clique' here in town, and I really don't bat an eye, for she'll just take a little longer to make good friends, that's all.


Keep mulling, it'll come -- it'll be hard, and often sad, but let that motivate you to find another path to take!!!



Colleen~ Mom of Morgan, 10 -- Madison, 6 & Maxwell, 3


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Registered: 05-06-2003
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 1:47pm

(((((((Tammy))))))))


I am with you dear!

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 2:08pm
Tammy,
First((((HUGS)))). I'm sorry your having problems with what you thought were friends let alone family. I went to my first SPD parent support group last night. It was so nice to hear others talking and some had been in OT for awhile and graduated. The topic was, How do you go out to dinner w/ your SPD child? After the meeting parents just kinda mingled. You might want to see if theres a support group nearby. I hope it's ok to post this address www.spdnetwork.org/parentconnections . GL
Sherri
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Registered: 10-09-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 3:10pm
Wow Tammy how sad! Can you find some local mommy/parent groups for kids with special needs? I have resorted to this myself, as none of my "friends" want their kids around mine. I just think to myself in a few years their kids will be around much WORSE when they start school HAHAHAHA! PJ is crying... take care and I hope it gets better!
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Registered: 05-02-2003
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 4:37pm
Thank you all so much for the kind words and understaning.There are no special needs kids groups around our area.I checked that out right away.Maybe I should try to start one.I need out get out of this funk I am in.Time to stop crying and start doing.It could be worse,It could be worse.Tammy
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Registered: 11-01-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 9:23pm

Tammy,


Words can express the pain you feel for your son.

               

 

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Registered: 07-14-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 11:27pm
Tammy, sorry to hear that your 'friends' ditched you and your son's birthday party. ((HUGS)), glad to hear that Gramma and Aunty didnt forget! Hopefully you are able to find someone whose is really interested in being friends- I know it can be hard when you move to a new place. Hopefully tomorrow is a better day for you!
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 2:37pm

Tammy,

I am so sorry that you are feeling this way! Those friends of yours are not friends. Real friends will be there for you through thick and thin. Try to keep your chin up - things will get better. Remember we are all here for you to vent.

((Hugs))

Kim

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