I am so happy, but sad too
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|Fri, 12-17-2004 - 4:39pm|
I'm not sure where to put this, so I figure this would be as good of a folder as any. (So, sorry if there was a better place.) McKay (my 3 year old, who is pretty sensory defensive and mildly autistic) really just loves to play with his sister Hannah (16 months). I love how close they are. They just sit together and giggle, or play for at least a half an hour in the Little People house or farm, and he completely lets her get away with a lot of things that no one else could. If Michael did some of the things Hannah does with (or to) McKay, he'd come unglued.
But I think part of the reason for this is that Hannah's verbal skills are really emerging. She has a lot of single words, understands even more, had pretty good non-verbal gestures and communication skills, and she's working on 2-word + phrases. So, in other words, she is fast approaching her 3.5 year old brother's verbal level. (He is progressing, but he is quite delayed and its been a slow process. But there is a lot of improvement.) Still, my 16-month-old is getting to the level of my 3.5 year old. It just makes me feel rather sad.
But I am happy that they love to play together. In a way, its like they're twins. He's always been so happy to have here here, and was very peacefully accepting of her since the moment she was born, almost like he was moving aside to share the baby position, rather than relinquishing it entirely. (Does that make sense?) But they seem to just have a major bond. (Although Hannah and Michael certainly have a bond of their own. He just dotes on his baby and loves to care for her. In fact, he knew she was on the way, even before we knew we were pregnant. He told us one night that he had a baby sister. Less than a week later, voila, a positive pregnancy test! Suprise! And then, guess what? It was a girl. He just knew. Our little, then 3.5 year old, Michael has always been connected with Hannah.) But McKay and Hannah just really love to be together and enjoy each other just for who they are, whether it is doing things together, or just being quiet and cuddling.
So, does that make sense? I am so sad that McKay is that far behind, but I am so happy that he seems to have someone to be his buddy for life. They seem to be progressing at about the same rate right now. It is like she pulls him along. He's still somewhat ahead of her in somethings (like his overall vocabulary is VAST), but in other things he is even father behind than she is, like in spontaneous sentences. But she's pulling them out of him.
Ahh, the joys and trials (and sometimes both) of being a sensory mom!