In need of Help

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-09-2012
In need of Help
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 12:45am

Hello everyone

I am new here and I am looking for some advice. I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter who has ASD, and SPD. She is still not eating any table foods. She finally started eating baby food from a spoon, but it has to be spread out a little throughout the day. I have to give her a bottle to make sure she gets in some nutrition. My biggest problem is her teeth! They are really stained in the front and when I try to brush them, I can't use toothpaste because she gags or throws up or when when I just try to use the brush, she screams and fights. I took her to a dentist that was suppose to be knowledgable about autism...I don't think so!! I watched as they held her down and cleaned her teeth while she screamed and gagged!. I felt like the worse mom in the world! Her teeth were clean for a while but now they getting dark again. I am so confused. I just learned about autism the later part of last year and I have no idea what I am doing! Please help!!

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Registered: 03-26-2012
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 12:29am

I have a friend with a son who has severe SPD, and he actually goes to feeding therapy. I don't know much about it, except that he goes once a week and they work on eating whatever foods he wouldn't eat in the last week. You might ask your pediatrician or service coordinator about it.

For the dental thing--my daughter has always had issues with the dentist and tooth cleaning. She's 9 yo. and is only just letting me brush her teeth regularly. She gets bad enamel from her dad, and so all of her teeth have problems. When she was four we had to have her anesthetized to have 8 silver crowns (caps?) put on, because there was no way she'd sit through it, or even allow herself to have laughing gas.

We went through a few "kid friendly" dentists until we finally found an incredible pediatric dentist. He and his staff all have great patience with kids and their fears about the dentist, and over the last few years she's gotten better and better about letting them clean her teeth. Last week she even let them take X-rays with the little hand-held X-ray gun. Of course, it took 15 mintues of coaxing her to put those plastic/cardboard things in her mouth, but that's ok. Maybe next time we'll get her to sit in the X-ray chair.

The other poster gave some great advice about brushing in increments and no milk, etc. Try to incorporate those things, and keep shopping around for a true pediatric dentist who understands dental fears and sensory issues.


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