Picky eater help

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Registered: 09-26-2007
Picky eater help
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Sat, 07-19-2008 - 2:32pm
CME is becoming more and more picky about the foods he'll eat. His sensory problems made it difficult for him to eat early on, but he can now control his oral muscles just fine without gagging on nearly every texture. But because of his problems, he's developed some major pickiness issues. He's physically able to eat just about anything, but refuses everything except cereal, chips, french fries, and plain noodles. He'll be 6 years old next month.

Seriously, that's all he'll eat. No veggies, fruits, breads, meats. Not even candy. Thank goodness for milk and V-8.

I hate getting into power struggles with him. I hate giving in and pouring a bowl of cereal for every meal. I hate making him sit at the table for an hour until he at least tries something. I hate using his favorite foods as a reward. He'll take a nibble or bite, and then he wants cereal, so it's pointless. If I refuse him what he wants he'll just whine and wait until it's time for the next snack or meal. He's growing taller, thanks to cereal and Pediasure, but he's skinny and I know he's not getting a well rounded diet.

I'll be discussing this with his OT on Monday, but I'm wondering who else has been in this sort of situation, and what you do. In most situations, I'd agree that "kids will eat when they're hungry," but he WON'T unless its one of his acceptable foods. He will whine, moan, tantrum and scream, but he won't eat. I'm starting to think I need to go "tough love" on him, and not let him eat anything else until he's finished what I've made for the family. But, then it becomes more of a power thing. Help!
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Registered: 06-07-2003
In reply to: eekee
Sat, 07-19-2008 - 8:29pm

Hi,


My DD is not picky, but my BFF has a son (almost 8) who was the same way...same food (excepy he also ate chicken fingers and hot dog sausages occasionally). She even had to send him to school with one of those packaged cakes in his lunch or he would not eat anything all day.


She stopped fighting and started leaving out certain foods for him to nibble on (hard boiled eggs, string cheese, cut up grapes, sliced cucumbers) and would not say a word either way if he ate or did not touch it. the absence of pressure helped him and he added a few foods to his repertory. He still favors white pasta over anything else, but he wil eat a few other things now as long as the pressure is off.


hth!


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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: eekee
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 8:55am

I agree, making the choices good ones help. Just have things out and around. Our dinner rule is "A no thank you bite. Then, make your own." It has proven to be a lesson in independence and has worked well. So, if she doesn't like dinner, she needs to not make a fuss, get up and make another dinner choice. (Yogurt, a pretzel, a waffle, etc) It was a novelty for a while, now she is fine with it.

Another thing we do is happy hour. Put out all those healthy choices before dinner to nibble on. Then, when dinner is served, you are already eating healthy and it seems to have cut down on our picky eaters for a while.

Good Luck!

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Registered: 07-18-2007
In reply to: eekee
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 1:25pm

I was going to make an almost identical post. My 6 year old is super picky and is now even refusing foods he used to like. He is losing weight and I have to beg him to eat anything. He lives off of PBJ and cereal. He will take maybe 2 bites of food (stuff he will eat) and tells me he is full.

He was drinking his "fat shakes" but now doesn't even want those. I make mine w/ whole milk, whipping cream (high calorie), soy protein powder, and chocolate milk.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: eekee
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 8:51pm

My son too! He's now 6.5 years old & we go through phases where he will not even eat his favorites. Right now there is not one thing I can make from home and he'll accept. Even eating out there is chicken nuggets,




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Registered: 08-12-2008
In reply to: eekee
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 9:06am

I know all kids are different, but for my son, I've found the 'tough love' approach was probably the worst thing I've tried.

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Registered: 07-18-2007
In reply to: eekee
Sat, 10-11-2008 - 11:14pm
So now my 6 year old is getting even pickier. He is refusing even previously loved foods like chicken nuggets, corn dogs and milk shakes. He is so tiny, I worry about him. He is always telling me he just isn't hungry. I have no idea what he is eating at school which drives me nuts. The school just treats me like an over concerned parent when I bring up his sensory issues.

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