play skills??

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play skills??
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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 10:10am

I need some advice. I'm concerned about Gabriel's play skills. He is constantly taking toys away from friends and sister. He doesn't have much of an imagination when playing. He wants me or dad to play with him constantly. Don't get me wrong he LOVES other children and gets very excited to be around them, but he doesn't know what to do when it comes to playing. I am emotionally and physically exhausted of playing referee all day long when it comes to him with his sister.

I sit with them during play and try having him take turns. It goes well at times and at other times he will have a tantrum. As soon as I get up it is back to the same old thing. I don't know what else to do. I'm exhausted.

Help!

Kim

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In reply to: momofwo24
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 12:29pm
I dont have advice for you.I wanted you to know that we have the same trouble here.I think it may be an age thing?I also know that the more I try to stop it the more it happens.I just got tierd and make them work it out.They fight bad at times then I put the toy away.That may not be the best thing but everything eles has not worked.I will be looking forward to what others will say.Tammy
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In reply to: momofwo24
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 12:40pm
PJ never really played. I bought toy after toy, and he would look and touch for five minutes and it would be stuffed in the bottom of the toy box. He has finally started pretending and will play a little on his own. He usually wants me to sit and play with him though. Kinda hard to do with another little one to care for. Our OT is working on focusing his attention, which should help with this some.
PJ also does not play well with other children though he adores them, and has friends that he always wants to play with. Maybe have a playgroup with older children so he can "learn" to play? We do this on occasion and it does seem to help. PJ is in a strong learning stage right now, so I do ALL I can! Good luck!
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In reply to: momofwo24
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 9:09pm

You know Kim, that was one of the tell tall signs for us that Olivia fell on the Spectrum.....NOT saying that

               

 

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In reply to: momofwo24
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 2:27pm

Oh Rachel, I don't know. We took him to Pittsburgh Children's hospital last year and the psychologist who evaluated him said he didn't have autism and all his teachers, therapists and slp don't think he has it either???? We've done the genetic testing and he is in the process of getting another psych. eval soon, so I guess we will wait and see. Maybe he will say he is on the spectrum? He is such a bright and lovable kid who has so much potential, but has such a hard time focusing. My biggest concerns are his play skills, attention issues and impulsive behavior. ADHD has been mentioned - I know it can go hand in hand with sensory integration and his slp thinks he has auditory processing issues. I just want to know what we are dealing with, so we DEFINITLEY know how to help him. He is such a puzzle.

Thanks Again for the input - I'll let you know what the psychologist says (who knows when it will be. We've been on the waiting list for a few months now...frustrating).

Kim

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In reply to: momofwo24
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 6:14pm

How exasperating!


I know what you mean, and frankly? Maddy is now 6 & still needs me to facilitate for her--and that means a whole helluva lot of refereeing.. it takes lots of extra time & a heaping dose of patience.


Have you ever considered play therapy? Or how about trying to find families with children of the same 'speed' and set up play dates?


I have 2 friends in which one has a daughter on the Spectrum & the other has a daughter with ADHD, man alive can we learn a lot from watching/coaching them! In fact, the one little girl with ADHD actually goes to 'session' with Maddy (to see the School Psychologist) & they play games & role play social situations.


Anyway..


I hear you & I understand....


we want things to happen yesterday..


it's hard..


and it takes every ounce of what we have -- just remember to be good to yourself, even the obvious we forget sometimes, eat, rest & exercise!


Good luck doll..


keep us posted on his progress!

Colleen~


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Registered: 11-01-2004
In reply to: momofwo24
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 8:55pm

Kim,


Don't be freaked out about this website name, I am just posting it because it has some great books with ideas on how to better facilitate social situations for little ones.