Potty training?

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Registered: 11-01-2006
Potty training?
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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 4:38pm

My 4 y.o. DD has had various developmental, speech and language delays pretty much since birth. She also has some sensory issues, mainly under-sensitivity ones. She's constantly moving, isn't bothered when she falls or gets slightly hurt, and doesn't notice a lot of things. Unfortunately this is also causing problems with potty training.

It's weird because she'll tell me she has to go potty if we're at the mall or in a store, but never when we're at home or at school. She's not bothered by being wet, and honestly doesn't even notice sometimes.

She's been wearing panties all day for the last couple of weeks at the suggestion of her early intervention team and her preschool teacher. She can stay dry if she's constantly reminded to go to the bathroom, but not if she's left to her own devices. She's had one accident at school in the last 2 weeks, and that was when she had 2 substitutes and they apparently didn't fully grasp my telling them "she needs to be frequently told to go to the bathroom or she'll have an accident.

Today I'm at the end of my rope. Not only did she have an accident at her "nap" time, but she had the accident while having sneaked into her brother's room and peed on his pillow which happened to be on the floor. She's due to start kindergarten in the fall, but if she's not fully potty trained then there's no way I can send her. If anyone has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them!

Meryl, Alex (12/24/02), and

Meryl, Alex (12/24/02), and Maddie (9/1/06)


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Registered: 11-01-2006
Thu, 09-30-2010 - 2:49pm
Her reward is a pink marshmallow, and she doesn't have any problem using the potty when I tell her to go. It's just that she won't go on her own. If she stays dry all day she gets to pick from the treasure box, which she really wants to do, but she has only gotten to do so once so far.

Meryl, Alex (12/24/02), and Maddie (9/1/06)


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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 6:53pm

My DD also doesn't really have sensory issues, but had the ability and would not follow through. With her, I think she just didn't want to stop playing, she hated the interruption.

What worked for us was a class. Ours was a playschool class, but maybe you can try some other parks & rec class. I took her to the parent meeting, but if you want to try this maybe you can take her to a class to let her see what it is like. Then I told my DD that she cannot go in diapers, it's not allowed. This was 4 days before playschool was to start. She came home & started to wear underwear. There were a couple of accidents, so I was scared on the first day. So for the first couple for weeks I ended up putting her in pull ups & underwear in the backpack. Told her if she had an accident it would be her last day of class, but I had underwear in there just in case.

Never had an accident at school. I think we still had some issues at home b/c she didn't want to stop playing, but after 2 weeks of school I tossed out the diapers & pull ups. Decided not to even use at night, just wanted them gone. Did get a pad for mattress & had to changed often, but we got there :)

We still did the sticker thing too ... but it was the class that made all the difference in the world. It was for big kids & she couldn't enter the big kid world w/diapers on.

Good Luck :)






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