Potty training and JUICE!

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Potty training and JUICE!
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Wed, 12-22-2004 - 5:31pm
Any advice for potty training? I know boys usually take longer to train. PJ is almost 2.5 and showed a GREAT deal of interest... so I waited for him to be ready! Well he finally did it a few times. That was nearly two weeks ago. Suddenly he doesn't want to go now. He does have some behavior issues, and I am working on getting an eval for that, but now he says no everytime I ask. I have tried to encourage him in every way possible. We used lollipops which were his fav now he will say no to those too.
We have a real PROBLEM with him drinking a lot too! I know the two will go hand in hand. He constantly cries for juice. It is like a comfort thing for him. We have a lot of meltdowns because I can't get his "juice" the moment he wants it. I have already watered it down as much as he will take it, I don't know what else to try. I have tried to say he can have juice after going potty, after eating, etc. This doesn't work with him at all though! It's as if he doesn't understand... or is just spoiled to it. Any help out there on these two things? TIA!
Shana
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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 6:46pm

Shana,

I wish I could be more of a help. Gabriel has shown interest in potty training and has know what to do for the past 1 1/2 - 2 years, but he still has accidents all the time and he will be four in Feb. If he is in his birthday suit he has no problem running to hte potty, but as soon as he has clothes on he has many more accidents. He seems to have uncomfortable bm's (sorry) - I really think if they were normal he would have more success with the potty training thing. As for drinking a lot. He does too. We can now control it more than when he was younger. It is hard to potty train as well when they drink so many fluids. My daughter was fully potty trained at 21 mos and it was so much easier b/c she doesn't drink as much as ds. G/L and let me know if you find anything that works.

Kim

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 10:17pm

If these are SI boys, you may find that they are just not ready so young. My son didn't completely potty train until he was 4, then he got it overnight and has never regressed or had an accident and was also immediately dry through the night. Even children without SI don't always train before 3 or so years of age, and active boys even later. SI kids have trouble feeling their bodies anyways, so knowing the sensations reliably can be difficult. Also, they have to want very, very much to use the potty. My son took some convincing, 'cus I'm still pretty sure he didn't see any real benefits to HIM.

We did the videos, read the books, had him around other children who were using the potty, promised him rewards. He wasn't ready until 4.

Good luck, maybe your children will accomplish the potty sooner. I would say no damage was done by letting Malcolm wait 'til he was super-ready.

yours,

Sara
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Sat, 12-25-2004 - 5:47pm

Oh Shana,


I am of no help either! lol

               

 

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Sun, 12-26-2004 - 3:30pm

My daughter was so difficult to toilet train...and now at 5.5 she still poops in her underwear if she is not with me.

The lack of feeling was definitely an issue since she is hyposensitive. She was also very oppositional about it all. I after age 3 we started, but it was really after 4 that we worked and it was so hard. Candy and treats helped. Having the potty in the living room definitely...and taking her on a schedule. I also used a picture schedule of morning and evening routines so that she was following the schedule to go. I will say she was completely urine trained since fall...only one accident in school...3 poop accidents in school since setember. But, she goes very infrequently and luckily in the evening for the most part.

So, I have no magic answeres...just want to lend encouragemant to you dealing with this...it is so hard and frustrating. For me had had to get her trained by kindergarten to go to the school I wanted her to go to....they have been cool about the acidents...because they are accidents.

Goodluck,

Cassie

Cassie
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Mon, 12-27-2004 - 12:16am

Golly, I wish I could help a little more. I have some general advice, but not much specific, which is what you really want. ;)

But my 5.5 SI boy was impossible to train forever. He just could never tell when he had to go. He would hold it forever, and if you trained yourself well enough and got him to the potty every few hours, it was fine, but get caught up in something, and well, you'd have a big puddle. Enter my sweet neighbor. She asked if we'd tried boxer shorts. Heh, did the trick! He could tell when he had to go. I guess the looseness of the fit didn't interfere with his sensory processing. Whew! It was funny, one day he had like 5 accidents, the next (after we bought the boxer's shorts) zero. Now he's only had the very very very occational accident. (Only when he gets totally involved playing PBSkids.org. LOL. Gotta still be trained myself on that one.)

Also, you just can't push. The more I pushed Michael and McKay, the less they went. McKay has finally started getting over his fear of sitting on the potty. This has been a very long ordeal. But I think that he is getting over it because it hasn't been made into anything big.

Oh! And my kids LOVE videos. McKay's favorite is Once Upon a Potty for Him. Just a short little story and song about Joshua and his potty. McKay loves it. Michael loves It's POtty Time. That one is about a little boy's birthday party and all the kids using the potty. It has silly songs and a clown. Anyway, both are at Toys R Us and both were a hit with my boys and really helped them want to use the potty.

Ok, I am sure I'll think of more things (you can't potty train as long as I have without having too many ideas! ;)

Rachel

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Mon, 12-27-2004 - 12:21am

I actually have this book, and I would say, try other options first. I think it would be a good last resort. It is just SO complex and really requires a LOT of effort and training on the part of the parent. I read it and got really disheartened. I would try some other methods first, really, before reading it. But it's kind of nice to know that if all else fails, there is still something out there, KWIM?

But thanks for the mentioning, Rachel. I forgot about that book.

The other Rachel ;)

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Wed, 12-29-2004 - 12:43pm

Really?