Reading and SI kids (New kid on block)

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Reading and SI kids (New kid on block)
Tue, 12-14-2004 - 3:15pm

Hi,everyone! My name is Becky and I have a daughter with SI.
She is 6 and a half, adorable, bright, charming.....and soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo difficult that I find
myself challenged on a minute to minute basis. What makes it
more exciting is that that she has 3 younger siblings.

I just discovered you guys and am so relieved to see that I
am not alone! I have so many issues to bring up, but the
most pressing is reading. She is in first grade and doing fine.
Until now we've been going to a "not so conventional" center
which gives "Behavior Communication" therapy, and believes in
inclusion. As a result we have avoided any kind of special ed.
They pushed us to go ahead with first grade and just lay off on
any pressure with reading, writing.

Basically, we have severed ties with them. (In spite of all the
help they provided over the last 2.5 years, we cannot continue due to
personal reasons.) Now- they said to leave the reading for
a few months- just let her acclimate (boy, is there a lot for her to acclimate
to!) We saw her coming home upset and although communication is so
difficult for her, we are pretty sure that seeing all the other girls
reading already ,(it IS december!), when she doesn't know the LETTERS,
is really upsetting.

I took her to a reading spcialist for eval.,she sent me to a teacher
who is teaching her a different method. She is extremely artistic and
the method is very visual. It's going slowly ,but we are hopeful.
Has anyone else gone through this experience of reading trouble, in
spite of child's apparent intelligence?


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Registered: 11-01-2004
Tue, 12-14-2004 - 5:22pm


Sounds like you have a lot on your hands.



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Registered: 11-16-2004
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 8:49am

Hi Becky, Welcome! My dd is 5.5 and in Kindergarten. She was dx'd in June with SPD. I have always known but didn't want to admit it. Like your dd she is very bright, adorable one minute and soooooo difficult the next.

We aren't having as many issues academically. However I have always pretty much homeschooled her in addition to school. I know I wont be able to do that next year when she goes full day (and that makes me really nervous!).

So, some questions for you. Does she know her letters at all? Or just not her letter sounds? I am also an OT, so now my questions get more specific, lol. What's the underlying issue with reading? For example perceptual, vision, dyslexia, etc. That is how I looked at evaluating and helping a kid when I worked in the schools. There are great games to work on perceptual skills.

What kind of sensory issues does your dd have? I've gotta run, dd is sick. Hope you stick around!

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Registered: 09-20-2004
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 12:15pm

Hello!! I'm so glad you found us! My son Gabriel will be four in February, so we really are not worried about reading yet. He is speech delayed and we believe he has some auditory processing issues. He too is very bright. He loves to fix and build things. YOu should see some of the things he builds with lego's. He knows his shapes and can draw some of them, he is pretty good with identifying colors and can identify his name. I dread reading b/c I have a feeling that it won't come easy. Let me know what works for your daughter - it won't be long when we will have to deal with those issues. I wish you all the best!! It sure isn't easy having a child with sensory needs.



p.s. Rachel - that is awsome that Olivia can read some!! Wow - I'm impressed :)

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Wed, 12-15-2004 - 2:04pm


A little freakish eh?



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Wed, 12-15-2004 - 5:33pm

Hi their Becky and welcome.My older ds Devin in 10 and in 4th grade. He went to a Montessori based school for half of kindergarten. I moved him in the middle of kindergarten. When he started his new school he was upset because all the others where writing better then he was. Then as he grew older all the others where still writing and where reading better then him. I just didn't get what could be wrong. He is very smart always scored well on IQ tests. Well it wasn't till we moved to a new school district in his 2nd grade year that we found out why he had trouble with reading and writing. We found out he is dyslexic.

My ds is a visual learner and has a very good memory. He is awesome with math and is great at chess.People with dyslexia have trouble mostly with reading and writing. Though some can have math troubles as well. People with dyslexia have average to above average intelligence. Most school districts here in Texas do not test till 2nd grade and some like the one we moved from 2 years ago don't test till 3rd grade.

My ds started getting really bad headaches during the school day in 1st grade because he was so frustrated. He wanted to read and write like the rest of his kids in his class. He know has 2 different teachers that help him with his reading and writing. It has made a word of difference for him.

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Thu, 12-16-2004 - 3:16pm

Dear New Friends,

Thanks so much for your replies.

No, Miri (DD) doesn't know the letters. I don't actually know what the root of her difficulty in reading is. Evaluations are just so stressful and traumatic for her that we try to keep them to a minimum. Many times the evaluator treat her as if she's invisible and she's very perceptive and knows that she's being discussed. For instance, the reading specialist who evaluated her made a comment like, "She needs ST - right away!" IN FRONT OF HER FACE! Why can't they be more sensitive to the child? In terms of exact diagnosis, I suppose I need to speak to the professionals again to find out exact terms. At the moment, they are just trying to find the right method.

Some of her SI issues are: being in crowded places; wearing socks (clothes in general are an issue), I have two daughters after her to wear all her expensive discards; other kids bumping her and taking her personal space.

She finds it extremely difficult to share - she always needs to have everything her siblings have. For example, when her 3 yr old sister had a birthday party she grabbed away her gift and refused to give it up. Luckily her sister is easy going but it made it a difficult b-party.

Looking forward to hearing more from you guys. Your support makes such a difference.


Mother of Miriam - 6.5; Meir - 5; Aliza - 3; Tehilla 2.

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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 10:15am
My DS age 11 also was a slow starter with reading and writing. I really wish I hadn't pushed him to read in second grade. It didn't help. He can read now, and that is the important thing. I think he was just pre-occupied with learning other important things at that age. Now that I've been parenting a bit longer, I've learned to trust that my children know what they need to learn, and when it is right for them to learn it.