Slipping back :(

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Slipping back :(
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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 3:16am

August was so GREAT, but September - maybe due to stress, not so much.

He's been acting to strange, distracted, unfocused... not the type we get when he's not taking Omega-3, a different kind. My momminess realized something is upsetting him & I've been fishing. Turns out he really does not like his new class. There was one boy he was so excited to see at the start of the year & I don't think the boy is paying him much attention. He's not making new friends in class & his best friend is in another class.

PLUS...

His knot tying is not getting better.
He never wants to ride his bike.
He was moved down a level in swim.
He doesn't like his new teacher.

Today, at dinner (went out for pizza) he just started to break down. Crying & stuff in the restaurant. It was so sad. Still, would not talk much - had to really fight for info.

What ways are there to boost esteem outside of physical feats? He needs a few ups!






"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."


~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng



"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Tue, 09-28-2010 - 2:08pm

I'm so sorry to hear that he's had a backslide. New school years are so tricky because there are so many things new and out of their (and your) control.



I agree with the other poster - celebrate the little things. Set him up for some "easy" tasks and let him feel a sense of accomplishment again.

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 12:54pm

On the first day of swim they will move swim students all over the place to make sure they are going to be utilizing the best of their abilities. It's done ONLY on the first day of class.

In level 2.5, where he was supposed to be, you're supposed to be able to swim across the pool both on belly & back - it doesn't have to be pretty. But he could not go more than a foot & starting swallowing water even. Now that he's back with the levels 1 & 2 he's back to where he was before summer. He is not putting his face into the water again, so he's arching his back to lift his face out of the water - which then makes him sink.

Our pool situation in this area is not very accommodating. I would say 99% of the pools around here are ran by parks & rec - which is also the pools the high schools use. Currently, if the pool has family swim, it is during the day (school time) or late at night (bedtime). Then on the weekends some pools have family time once a day for about 1.5 hours. The pools are so over crowded you barely have elbow room and no room to practice techniques.

Then the pools either start at 3' deep (my DD will not accept deep water) or they start at 1.5', but they do not go past 3.5' deep - so my DS knows he can put his feet down & won't lift them to practice his techniques. He tells me he'll only do if his feet won't touch. But then what do I do with my DD - she's terrified of deep water (she's had the swim ability to move up since last January - but they won't move her due to her fear of the water).

The other 2 pools in the area are outside of my budget. I have no idea what they're like :)

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As for school. I've been waiting for the volunteer schedule. I work from home (contract) and usually have no work on Fridays. I want to get a first-hand look at what is going on in the classroom. It is possible he's just upset his best friend is in another classroom (which his 2nd grade teacher did on purpose b/c the other boy is a bad influence on my DS).

Knowing they were going to be split this year I was taking the opportunity to try to divide the two over the summer. But he's been so miserable I've ended up letting them get together a lot lately. It really lifted his mood for a while - but now the reasons I don't like them being friends are arising again, so I fear I'm going to have to try to make it difficult for them to see each other again.

When he spends too much time with this kid he gets mean toward his sister, argumentative toward parents, wants to spend more time on video games, is distracted in school, etc.

Talking to other parents, I believe all the 3rd grade teachers are being a bit tough on our kids. Our school tried looping, where the 1st grade kids/teachers went to 2nd grade together. A new principal came in during this trial and was appalled by it - thought our children were coddled for too long. So I guess the 3rd grade teachers are being extra tough.

It's a roller coaster right now, some days he's happy again - other days he's so emotional. I told him (and myself) I've heard all the 4th grade teachers are amazing, so we just need to grip on and ride 3rd grade the best we can.






"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."


~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng



"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 5:22pm

UGH...I'm so sorry that the world seems to be working against you guys lately.
I guess the only thing you can do is continue the praise you're doing from home, keep giving him chances to succeed and then just get him through those other areas as best as you can.

And as always, we're here for you to vent to!
HUGS and hang in there...it WILL get better!