Sports/Activities for 8 yr old SID BOY

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Sports/Activities for 8 yr old SID BOY
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Thu, 08-28-2008 - 7:08pm

My DS is not the most coordinated 8 yr old boy there is. He didn't really climb ladders (still avoids them , if possible) at the playground until after 5 yrs old. He's terrified of heights and most anything coming at him quickly (balls, people, etc). : ) Actually, he'll play catch and doesn't really flinch anymore. However, he won't play baseball and claims he'll die if he plays just about any sport. By die, I mean, he literally thinks he'll be trampled to death, hit in the head with a ball, lose an eye, etc. Poor guy.

Just before we realized he had SID (we knew something was up, but had no word for it), we put him on a local basketball team. He was in his age group when I heard a coach ask another how old he was. They thought he was younger, because of the way he ran. They then placed him in the younger group, where the children were still so physically sophisticated. It was PAINFUL to watch him.

So...that was last summer. This summer I really was hoping he'd get into swimming. I'm sure you all know where this is going. : ) Actually, he can swim on his back beautifully, but can't stand water on his face. I thought maybe he'd be interested in a swim team, etc. I even had him watch the Olympics.

Here's my thing. I don't totally believe that organized sports are necessary. However, I want him to be able to blend in and get by when playing PE at school. He's in the fourth grade. He's fairly tall and big. He's not overweight, but could be in the near future.
His tends to jump and do this tippy toe dance and moves his hands in a strange way. The teachers haven't noticed it, so maybe he hides it at school. However, he can't hide the fact that he has little athletic ability.

Can anyone recommend how we get him to blend in? We've tried Jui Jitsu (sp?), but they've been on break for the summer. If you have kids this age, what activity do you have them involved in?

Thanks : )

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Fri, 08-29-2008 - 3:14pm
Wow, you just described my DS! I am sorry I have no real help for you but it is nice to hear someone else with a similar problem. My DS is 7 and has SID and ADHD. This summer he finally learned how to swing by himself, I refused to push him any longer, he got mad and cried and whined a few times but slowly figured it out. He still can't ride his bike with out training wheels, that is the next thing to work on here. He did play t-ball last year and this year and he improved a bit, but still isn't as coordinated as most of the kids on his team. We tried soccer last fall and it was a total disaster so I am not even going to bother with that again this year. He loves nature, bugs and all kinds of animals. This summer I sent him to a nature camp one week for a few hours each morning and he loved that. I was thinking of trying gymnastics or some type of martial arts after school starts. How does your DS like Jui Jitsu? I am going to look into Cub Scouts as well. I agree with your about organized sports not being necessary but I too worry about him fitting in during PE. He has a funny way of running sometimes and still does the hand flapping while running once in a while too. My DS is average for height and weight, with the ADHD he can't sit still and is always on the move. On the weekends we like to take the kids out on hikes and things like that to keep them active and outdoors. Let me know if you find anything helpful.
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Sat, 08-30-2008 - 12:41pm

My ten year old son with sensory issues and mild motor dyspraxia has similar difficulties and this is one of the reasons we homeschool.

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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 3:01am

What about trampolins? They really help build the muscles and give great body awareness. And you can be as clumsy as you need to be.. hahaha. They are a lot of fun and great exercise!!

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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 2:26pm

You say it was painful to watch him. Was it painful FOR him? My DS is 11 and dyspraxic with hypotonia and it's taken a long time for him to do anything that he has mastered but he did eventually get there.

Swimming was a study in drowning admirably until he was over 9 but then things got a better. He is managing more things now as his body is maturing.

I'd say as long as he is enjoying what he does then let him continue. It's not about how good he is but how he enjoys it.

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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 2:44pm

Yes, it was uncomfortable for him as well. He purposely ran slow, etc. so he wouldn't have to get caught up in fighting for the ball. He could have been across that court on a heartbeat, but held back so attention wouldn't be on him. He didn't want to go every week, but we wanted him to finish what he started. At the time, we didn't quite know what to call what he had. DH is a professor so the coach was his student and super patient with DS.

We just want him to be involved in some sort of physical activity. He doesn't want to ride his bike much anymore. I'm not totally sure why. He says he's afraid of the cars, but he rides his scooter more often. I know he fell once pretty hard and has never been into the bike since. That was 6 months ago.

He can find a way that he might possibly die with anything I mention. It's kind of funny, yet it worries me that that fear will hold him back.

We'll figure it out.
Thanks for the help. :)

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Registered: 02-10-2005
Sun, 09-21-2008 - 6:38pm

A trampoline is a great idea! Thanks. We'll have to look into that.

Cute baby, by the way. : )

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Sat, 09-27-2008 - 3:31pm

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There are many activities that are organized and club like that don't require althletic prowess. ;-)


Is weight/exercise a concern for you - lack of it I mean?



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Sat, 09-27-2008 - 3:34pm

Horses are known to be very theraputic - with all children. Put him on a horse. ;-)


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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 3:49pm
That sounds just like my son! Can do things, but is afraid. I am struggling to find stuff for him to do too. We are in a HUGE hockey town and he is not interested, though he loves when I take him skating. Its the concept of being in that scrum. He is in swimming and starting to build skill (albeit slow to progress) and I hope to keep that up. It is hard and I sure feel your frustration! I am going to maybe try Karate and perhaps Tai Chi. Something that helps him become better aware of his body.