Tantrums tantrums and staring people

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Registered: 05-02-2003
Tantrums tantrums and staring people
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 5:28pm
Oh my golly.We went to pick up dd from school early for an orthodontic app..Well Christopher sees someone in the hall that looks like sissy and starts to scream and cry sissy sissy.I tell him that it is not sissy and then he starts to scream louder and throws himself on the floor kicking and screaming.Well I try to pick him up and he makes himself as stiff as a baord and then starts to hit,kick,and bite me.All these people are staring at me and the principal comes out and tells us to get out and wait for who ever outside that this will not be tolorated at his school.So I walk out crying.Then I have to take dd to her app.Well same thing happens at the app.Christopher losses it again.I tried my best and I got told to wait outside as we where going outside.I would love for some of these people to ask if they can help or something but not stare at us.I would love to find a babysitter or something for Christopher when we have to do something like today.But I dont know anyone here.Dont the dumb person who sits behind the desk watching my screaming kid while yelling at me not to bring him anymore think that if I had a choice I would not bring him.Then dh start laying into me about his darn socks and why cant he find them.Look I said I dont give 2 (*&*^^* about you socks.I cant wait for those men in the white coat to take me away kicking and screaming or at this point I would skip away with them.What do you ladies do about the tantrums and the staring?How do you get through it gracefully and not go crazy at the same time.Well now dd just has to have me write a check for lunch money and cant wait and dh is still screaming about socks and Christopher wants a drink in the blue cup and mommy wants to run away.Thanks for listing if you made it this far.I promise to one day hopefully soon stop complaing all the time.Thanks for listing and any Ideas would be great.Goota go look for sock,write a check and get a drink in the blue cup all at the same time.Super mom to the day.Tammy
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Registered: 05-06-2003
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 6:57pm

((((((((Tammy))))))))


I would love to say it gets better, but it doesnt.

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Registered: 11-01-2004
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 9:04pm

You know Tammy, I say you get an autism awareness pin and wear it.

               

 

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Registered: 10-09-2004
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 9:17pm
I can so relate to your frustration! Isn't it lovely? LOL! Now that I have another little one, I don't get a chance to see other's faces anymore. So I don't worry so much about what other people are thinking. I do hate the fact that other people are ignorant or just don't really care when they are taking their time and you have a screaming child. How frustrating!
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Registered: 05-02-2003
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 10:06pm
Yes I have been thinking of the card idea and I just may do that as I seem to get myself into alot of spots where We are not our best KWIM? Thank you for your hugs I needed them so bad.I just wish people would not stare and not think they know everything.Tammy
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 7:14pm

Tammy, that is so awful. My heart went out to you just reading your post. The thing about autistic kids is that they look just like everyone else, and so people don't realize that they have autism and immediately judge the parents-which is SOOOOOO wrong.

I think the cards are a great idea. As for the principal, I would be absolutely livid. I would march myself right back in there and explain that I agree that the noise was disruptive, but you were in need of HELP-not to be kicked out. What do they do for other special needs children in the school? Kick them out when they tantrum? He could have handled that much better, and I would tell him that. If I didn't get a decent response, I'd go above his head and complain. The reason being...if your child ends up attending that school, you want that principal to know that you won't tolerate being treated like that.

As for the doc's office, I would also either write them a letter or talk to a supervisor, and explain that your child has autism. Of all places, a doc's office should be the most sympathetic. To ask you to leave is deplorable-and if the response I got wasn't to my satisfaction, I'd change doctors. I could understand them asking you if you needed a room or another space to calm your child down, but yelling at you is unprofessional.

My son has sensory issues and a learning disability, and I have had strangers make really rude comments when he was little. I learned to develop a thick skin, and those that would say rude things....well I had a quick and sharp come back for. The special needs kids that I work with....if other parents say rude things...I explain that the child has X and cannot help it. As for the staring, how about looking right back at them and saying matter of factly..." my child has autism. He cannot handle crowds and busy places." They may be embarressed then...or at least be more understanding.