Telling your SPD child about SPD?

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Registered: 08-26-2004
Telling your SPD child about SPD?
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Fri, 04-30-2010 - 10:40pm

When my son was getting ready to start going to a psychologist to help with anxiety, mood swings, and explosive tantrums, I wanted to be as honest as possible with him.

Jaimee - Mama to three boys

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Registered: 07-22-2007
Mon, 05-03-2010 - 2:27pm

Hi there! My daughter has SPD. She is 7 and in first grade.
We told her right up front about her condition. Of course it was difficult not to considering she was in the room with the PT when we were talking about it being a possibility. She asked me later, "Mom...what was it that that lady said my body can't do?"

So I explained to her that everybody's brains and bodies are different. My brain doesn't have to work too hard to figure out the world around me...but her brain has to work harder at it. So she's going to spend some time with an OT so that we can help retrain her brain not to have to work so hard.

She had been having some attention issues at school and so she knew that something was "up" with all of the meetings etc. Plus she's a very clever child so I guess being up front with her from the beginning was our only choice.

Her reaction after I explained how the SPD was affecting her at school and at home? "I told you I couldn't help it!"

I think being upfront and honest about it if the child is old enough really helps. Her OT is really impressed with how much she understands and how well she "gets it" and she can really participate and communicate how things are making her feel. If it was all a big mystery, I don't think we'd be making progress as quickly as we are.

Good luck!

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Tue, 05-04-2010 - 9:58pm

..... "I told you I couldn't help it!" ....

Priceless.

We talk openly about autism in front of Gabe. I don't know if he really gets it though. He has been in therapy since 2 so he doesn't know any different. He never asks me...but that's not a good way for me to gauge what he's thinking. Being autistic kind of hinders how he communicates with me. Sometimes I sit and wonder what he's thinking because he doesn't share many of those thoughts with me.

I digress...anyway...I think being open and honest is a good thing...but I also think it's a personal choice. Every child is different...every situation different.

For us...we don't hide autism from Gabe. But because he never asks me why he goes to speech...I never really have to explain. I wonder if I should?



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