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Registered: 05-18-2004
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 12:04pm

We have just begun to really notice our son's sensitivity to his environment and how it's such a crucial factor in his behavior...and he's just started to articulate things. So for me, while I suppose I always knew these things, it's just weird to hear it from him.

For example...we were in the grocery store. It was the second one of the day, we'd been out about an hour and a half. We were in the freezer aisle, and he began twirling around and his hand became an airplane. He began making engine noises and running around. I stopped him. He started again. I stopped him again. He started again, to which I said, "I am getting frustrated here!" He looked at me totally serious and said, "well get me out of here then. It's too noisy!" When I asked what was noisy he looked at me like I was insane (to me it was not noisy at all). "THAT (pointing to the freezers) is humming, THAT (pointing up to the loudspeakers) is playing music, there are people everywhere talking, it's just too much. I'm DONE!"

I just stared at him in disbelief. I got him to the register, he sat on his favorite chair and had his cup of water (which is a ritual for him) while I was rung through, and he was fine for the rest of the day.

So two questions...

Do your kids have certain "rituals" to keep themselves in control or calm themselves down? And do they get upset when they can't do them?

And....I don't quite understand the need to make more "noise" when they are overstimulated. Is it to drown out the noise around them?

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Registered: 09-30-2004
In reply to: khumphrey
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 1:22pm

Wow, what an eye-opener!

Currently I'm looking for books that help us help our SPD children 'relate' to those type of revolutions (yes, to me they are just that)..

I do have social stories that we read together--one for public places, one for playing with friends & one that talks about how to ask for help at school (Maddy is forever in 'fright' mode & does not seek out help)..

Maddy has her nightly rituals--but it's in one lump.. her routine is very important to her & she really leans on the sameness of what we do .. her exercises (ball & trampoline) coupled with her brushing program are integral to send her off to bed feeling 'organized'..

I cannot say that I find Maddy trying to drown out the crowd, but she does seem to self-stim' more while we're out - waiting for that impending intrusion I've gathered. It's incredible that your son has pointed out to you the very things that get him buzzing!

They are very complex, aren't they? Everyday I learn something new about Maddy--and I always wonder what the next day beholds..


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Registered: 02-08-2005
In reply to: khumphrey
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 3:13pm

Wow, that is amazing that your son can tell you what's bothering him.

My son has rituals to almost everything. How he gets dressed, what cup he uses, how his blanket has to be just so at naptime and bedtime, how you fasten his car seat, which way he drives his trains on the train table,.... ummmm I think it's safe to say he can't tolerate change.

I think you've enlightened me. Maybe he screams to be louder than the noises that are bothering him at the store.I'm interested in what other peoples replies are. I need to talk to my OT about so many issues but right now my first priorty is his hitting! Were fairly new to all of this and have only been to OT twice.


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Registered: 11-01-2004
In reply to: khumphrey
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 9:23pm

Sometimes it is almost sad to see and hear that isn't it?