Advice for next school year needed

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Registered: 01-08-2004
Advice for next school year needed
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:49am
It's 3:30 here I can't sleep. I need to be up at 5:30. Think I'll just stay up. Here's what's bugging me. My 6yo has global developmental delays. She attended catholic school this year and extended day to public for special ed. Next year she will be attending a brand new school (public). Needless to say, nobody knows what's going on. They want to add adaptive pe to her schedule. This will total almost 8 hrs a week of special ed. Plus a para in the room. She has been labled "educationally hard of hearing." They want to put speakers and amplifiers in her class. I think a hearing aid would be a better option. It's more discreet and she needs to hear in gym, the library, art class and at home. They are against it. We've had trouble with para's doing too much this year and the amount of time she is out of the room for special ed. I have nothing against getting her all the help she needs, but its gotten out of control. The para holds her paper for her, helps her cut and write, doesn't allow her to make any mistakes. They put a weight on her spoon because she eats messy. She has to hold her spoon like a baby would, which makes it harder for her to eat. Its so big she can't even wrap her hands around it. They make her use it. I have actually thrown it away before, and they get a new one. She has a wrist weight which helps with cutting, but not writing. She has to bend her wrist over the weight to write, so its even harder for her. They make her use that too. If she's frustrated and has a tantrum, the baby her instead of telling her its not allowed. That's too much, imo. I mention this and they blow me off so I give in. I keep saying "Who is in charge of (fill in the blank) next year. I want to have everything set and ready to go on the first day of school." I also want a meeting asap after school starts instead of waiting until Oct. like they usually do. Now they say beginning of the year meetins aren't required and we won't need one. UGH! I hate this! They oppose everything we say or want and we give in. No wonder they think I'm a pushover. If I put my foot down, they think I have unrealistic expectations and the file reports with CPS. What am I to do? To make matters worse this new school (or complex as its called) is 2 miles off the bus line. We don't have a car, so getting to IEP's and conferences is impossible. I won't be able to pick her up early or drop her off late if need be. I can get a boundary exception, but special ed bussing won't transport her then. Really, this sucks. I'm making myself sick over school that is how many months away? Help!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 8:01am

HI and welcome!

 


 



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Registered: 01-08-2004
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:27pm
I'd never thought of sending a certified letter, I will have to remember that. This school district knows every little loophole and uses it. Guess I'm gonna have to get real tough. City planners won't send the city bus near the "complex" (what's with schools these days?) so I'm gonna get a boundaries exception. I have people that can help with rides sometimes, but nobody that can do it all the time. I swear, the more I need a ride, the more busy everyone is or thier cars are broke down. As I'm typing, I realize that it will cost her to ride city bus next year, that will really add up. The district is disorganized. Since they are closing, building and restruring all the schools, nobody knows who is where next year. They have money for new schools that they didn't need but are cutting over 50 positions, mostly special ed/elementary teachers. They wait till the last minute to tell anyone anything. Like with school buses. They put the route info in the paper the day before school starts. I've known many parents who've been fired or quit their jobs becase they had no notice to completely change thier schedule. I've been told that I live in one of the best states for special needs kids. If this is the best, I'd hate to see the worst! Thanks for your advice though, I will remember and use it. I'm going to call the special ed teacher soon, I'll let you know what happens.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:41pm

Many school districts are in similar straits....alll over the country!