Are typically developing kids harder..

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Registered: 01-08-2004
Are typically developing kids harder..
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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 2:10am
to raise, or am I just paranoid. I'm sure I've told you about Sammy's global delays. So, ever since Ruby was born, I've done nothing but watch her like a hawk and worry myself sick. She met all of her developmental milestones early or on time, except walking down stairs (she never crawled down backwards)is a little behind in fine motor skills, and is in speech therapy. Her speech has been an issue. She's just now starting to talk coherently. BTW, she's 2 1/2. She's always hated the feel of playdoh, finger paints etc and she's a very active child. Kind of the mindset "Why would I sit down and do a project or hear a story when I can be running and getting into things?" lol So, I don't think her fine motor is "delayed" but a little behind. The speech teachers increased her from 2 hrs a week to 8 hrs a week for speech. I guess she didn't make a sound in speech class this summer. What did they expect with 6 hrs in 8 weeks? And then there's the discipline. Sammy didn't get her terrible two's until 3 1/2 yo. So, we could explain things to her and talk about manners, feelings etc. Ruby on the other hand, doesn't listen, discipline and punishments are completely ineffective. She will go right back to doing whatever it was that got her in trouble the in the first place. If we try to talk to her, she won't look at us or pay attention. Of course, I sah and have less energy or patience than when Sammy was little and I worked full time. When you look at her aversion for certain things, like projects and stories, her behavior issues, her speech what do you think? Overall, she's been a good kid, just completely beyond control sometimes. She started talking when she was just under a year (hi, bye, mom, dad, ball etc) then quit when she learned to clap, walk, run, jump and other "physical" things in about 6 weeks. Could there be something going on or am I just paranoid? Oh, and if she does do a project (besides coloring) she's busier throwing playdoh and flinging paint everywhere than anything else. Thanks for letting me ramble, and if you're not completely lost, I'd appreciate any advice.

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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 8:06am

Hi!

 


 



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Sat, 08-14-2004 - 12:47am
To be honest, I'm afraid to say anything to the speech therapist. They made it clear that they would "make sure" she qualified for speech and "make sure" she qualified for any other service THEY want her to have. They actually went as far as not completing the evaluation. I'm not sure she will even go back. It seems if you think your kid might have an issue, they are automatically diagnosed with it. They've already diagnosed her with global developmental delays, even though she only has speech delays. Although she's not overly cuddly, she doesn't mind hugs, sitting on my lap etc. She isn't bothered by the feel of clothes, except socks and tanks that tie around her neck. I think she dislikes socks because her feet get hot so easily. Can you imagine going out in just socks when it 5 degrees outside and your feet getting hot? I can't! Really, I have no clue what typically developing kids are like. That is why dh and I aren't having any more. We're doing the "new parent" routine for the second time!

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Sat, 08-14-2004 - 8:20am

Oh, we can relate to the "barefoot in the cold weather thing" in more ways than one!

 


 



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Sat, 08-14-2004 - 10:59pm
I forgot to mention that the wind chill was -20. She refused shoes or boots, so I did the "Fine, you can go barefoot and get cold" trick. Backfired! I asked EIS for an evaluation, just to see how she really was doing with her speech.

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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 7:36am

As difficult as it may be to fight her on this, it may be necessary to make wearing foot coverings outside a rule in your house.

 


 



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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 10:52pm
Getting her to wear footwear outdoors isn't too much of a problem anymore. In fact, she was upset I wouldn't let her wear winter boots today. Sometimes, she will put them on and take them off right away. We ride the bus, so she's in her stroller alot when we go out. As long as it's not too cold or we're not in a restaurant, I dont' really care if she has anything on her feet or not. I quit forcing her to wear something and the battle ended. Thanks for your help on everything, I'll definitely keep you posted.