Behavioral issues

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Registered: 03-20-2007
Behavioral issues
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 6:48pm

Hello-

Well my son has OT,ST snd PT he is 1 1/2 yrs. old and spent about three of the months in the hospital when he was a baby for pneumonia. Currently teething and we are still trying to get him to sit and even crawl. I have a very outspoken PT and she usuallly tells me what I should be doing for my son and how I shouldn't treat him any different than a "normal" child. She goes on to tell me that he is just spoiled and I need to teach him how to behave, she says "I don't care what he has gone thru or anything he still should know how to behave", and I need to think about how he needs to go to school, I shouldn't even consider home-schooling him. You know I can be the first to admit that yes daddy spoils him a little and I take it easy on him sometimes but I am the one who stays home with him all the time and when the therapist aren't here I do therapy on him. I am the one that tries to make him behave. But sometimes he just is so far gone he doesn't calm, down unless he rocks himself. He can be super sweet and funny some days but if we move him the wrong way or speak to loud he does get upset. I know she means well about what she said as far as him behaving heck I wish I did have him "trained" in that matter, but it just even that easy maybe she had it good with her "normal children" but my son is different. I need to stop writing 'cause I think nobody is even going to understand what I write anymore. I can't put the words that are in my head to come out right in my writing right now. Anyways thanks again for reading my confusing rants.

V.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: vcalmc
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 5:01am
For goodness sake, he's not even two years old and you're getting this? I would have a conniption! YOU are the parent. YOU are the mother. YOU choose how to parent and how to raise your child. She is a person who sees him on a limited, even if it is regular, basis. She probably wants to have him cooperate fully so she can get going or something. This is terrible. Do you have a choice of PTs?

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Registered: 03-20-2007
In reply to: vcalmc
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 8:57am

Actually I have asked but all the other PT's are booked. She does see him for 2 times a week an hour each time. I am still going threw all of the mess of going without medicaid or CHIPs for my son. He is currently in a charity for his therapy sessions. My DH got super mad when I told him about what she said and well I was so upset. You know somehow she never talks like that when he is around. Anyways, thank you for asking, today we will see if she doesn't try to give me another "talk". Bye for now

V.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: vcalmc
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 10:31pm
So how did it go? If she's still at it or starts up again, Let her know that it is inappropriate, and you do not want her to judge your parenting again. If she still continues, complain to her supervisor. It doesn't matter who is paying for it. This is inappropriate behavior. If you do make a complain to her supervisor, the supervisor may be able to make a change to another PT anyway.

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Registered: 03-20-2007
In reply to: vcalmc
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 9:40am

Well yesterday came and went, thankfully she didn't give me another "talk", I had spoken to the S.T. maybe she told her something. Also my son was acting a little better, considering he bit his tongue twice the day b-4. She just kept mentioning how much better he was acting than the last time. I could hardly speak (darn allergies) I was trying to tell her, he has his days and of course his moods. She just said he is overly sensitive (well DUH!). Anyways, thank you for asking and I will probably talk to the supervisor if she does do it again. Here's hoping she doesn't though. Bye for now :)

V.

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Registered: 11-15-2005
In reply to: vcalmc
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:58pm
Man your story sounds just like mine. My daughter is 19 months and she is very aggressive. She bites, hits, pinches, throws herself on the floor and rolls around pulling her hair. She has Jacobson's Syndrome. I have mentioned this to the doctor and they don't say anything about it. But I have to watch her around other kids. I do discipline her just like I do my other 2 kids. I don't treat her any different then my other 2. You are the mother and you know how your child is. The only person that I would listen to (not saying that I would take the advice) would be her genetic doctor. Good Luck to you