Child with a Disability

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Registered: 07-20-2003
Child with a Disability
Sun, 07-20-2003 - 10:48pm
AJ is 3 years old and was just diagnosted with a Learning Diability which was compared to a mild case of Autism. He has a high IQ but has problems with social interaction and with communication. He is currently receiving Speech Therapy and Occupational Therapy twice a week. My wife and I both work fulltime jobs with a combined income of under $40,000. We need to know if there is any help for us in New York State. We are having problems with his PreSchool. Any info would be very helpfull.

AJ's Daddy

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Registered: 06-19-2003
Tue, 07-22-2003 - 4:40pm
hi my son also has autisim but serveily but i am sure there is help for your son what i would do is talk to the preschools and soical workers to see if there is any type of speical attion your son can recieve in preschool. i live in lousianna so i am not sure about the laws in new york. for my son who is serveialy autisic he gets a one on one aide to help out in the class room. my son is 8 but he is only in 1st grade cause of his disblity but also you can help your son to talk to your doctors and thereapists to see what you can do at home to adpat him.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:42am
Having lived in NY and having my dd go through a special ed preschool I can tell you that yes there is help for your son. Call your local school district, they will give you a list of accredited preschools where they will test your son to see if he qualifies as having a disability. Once they complete that and he is found eligible they will help you select the preschool best suited to your child. This preschool is at no cost to you. We did not live in NYC so I don't know if it works the same there, we were in Carmel.
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 9:51am
Hi AJ's Daddy

It took two years of testing before my son was diagnosed with nonverbal learning disorder. At first it was just called a mild learning disability, but nothing specific. He also has high IQ, exceptional verbal and reading skills, but at 9 years still cannot tie his shoes, ride a bike or add numbers. He had speech therapy for about four years but "graduated" from that this year. He has been getting OT for three years. We are also in New York State and have found the public educational system in NY to be exceptional. It may just be because your son is so young that you feel you are not getting what you need for him. Here in Erie County we have a program that is called Early Intervention that provides free services to pre-school children. Check with your county government to find out if there is Early Intervention services where you are. They will even send therapists to your home to work with your son. Other than that, just be sure that you attend every IEP meeting, request regular conferences with your child's teachers and therapists and ask lots and lots of questions. I have found they are hesitant to make suggestions, but if you ask they usually have answers. NYS public schools are required to provide your child with everything it takes to give them an education, but you have to be pushy and demand what you want and need for your child. Ask around (other parents and teachers are invaluable sources of information) and find out how your local school district handles children with special needs. We ended up changing school districts to get our son in the kind of classroom he needed. It was the best move we ever made! Good luck!

CJ (Mom to Jake, 9 and Sam, 5)

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 2:26pm


Welcome to the board. It's nice to have a Dad here. More should come (although I am sure my DH lurks, he is afraid to post!)

I am also in NY state (nassau Co), There is great help available, Am I hearing that your DS qualified for services, but not for a special ed school? Is that right, or did he qualify for a special ed preschool and there were no places available? I am asking because it's two different situations.

Anyway, here are a few sites for you to check out This lists all the special ed preschools and schools in NY State.

the main NYS education site.

I think considering your situation, you shoudl qualify for additional help or social security to help with any aditional therapies etc. Unfortunately, I have no idea how to go about gettign this help. Do you have an assigned social worker either through Early Intervention or through your school district? If so, ask him or her about SSI and other options which may be available to you.

If you think your DS needs a special ed preschool and one is being denied you, then try posting a question on the Special Education board. They may be able to give you a better idea of your options.

HTH and good luck



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