Dealing with strangers reactions

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Dealing with strangers reactions
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:44pm

Hi everyone,

I don't think I've ever posted to this board, but this might be where I fit in the best.

My 3 1/2 year old is very developmentally delayed. His behavior in public is bad. He tries (limited vocabulary but a lot of sounds) to talk constantly, and when he talks, he screams or yells. He does not seem to know the sound of his own voice, and does not understand the word "quiet". We can't let him out of his stroller because he runs from us screaming the whole time. He was adopted, and was born with Meth in his system. In addition, we just found out that he has a tumor in his brain. We're dealing with a lot of health issues with him, but the way people are reacting to him and our family is bothering us.

We have other children, and we do like to go out and do family things. Every time (and I mean EVERY time) we go out, strangers react. We either overhear them talking to the people we are with or we see them turn around in their seats to look at us. Just yesterday a woman said to the person she was with "eye, eye, eye!" after he yelled, "mama" because he could not see me (dad had him and I walked around the corner). We were at the Mt. St. Helens interpretive center, it's not like we were at an art museum or library! One time someone said, "why did they even come?" when we went to an aquarium.

My Dh and I are both very introverted people, and this is starting to bother us a lot. Has anyone else had to deal with people like this? What do you do?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 9:20am

Welcome, Kittyshay!