Do you handle SN stress as well as you

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Do you handle SN stress as well as you
Wed, 01-25-2006 - 6:53pm

think you do?

I have had a pretty poopy last few weeks. Awe heck it has been a poopy year, maybe 2, lol. In fact, I typically am one of the most regular posters on the PDD/AS board and I have decided to take a break from it for a while over some stupid stuff.

I always thought I handled the stress pretty well but what I did was bury it and get busy with stuff. Volunteering, therapies for kids, helping out other people, etc. Well this year it wasn't working anymore and the stress got to be too much. I started seeing a therapist a few months ago, and last week she really was tough on me and made me realize I don't handle stress well at all. That this burying thing we moms do is not a good way of dealing with it. But who wants to hear all teh stresses of raising SN kids, trying to stay married, trying to keep a roof over your head and trying not to go crazy? The only ones who would understand are other moms with stresses of thier own to share. They don't have the energy to hear mine.

Therapist tells me that as people we need to connect with other people and have relationships. Even DH seems to be AS so connecting with him is well.....not happening. So this has now been on my mind for the entire last week and she had to cancel this week. So I have to wait another week.

I started back to work parttime (when kids are in school. ASD son can't handle aftercare) and so long as I am working I am fine. My mind is off the "stuff" and I am busy. But today was my day off and I just didn't know what to do with myself. I couldn't even get my housework done.

Is it just me or is it a SN mom thing. How do you handle SN mom stress? Sorry but the occasional bubble bath or good book just doesn't cover it. Do you have folks you are connected with in real life? How do you do it?


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 9:48am

Renee, I see that you are a caring and loving mom.