haircuts?

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Registered: 09-01-2004
haircuts?
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 6:54pm
For once I am getting very annoyed by something! It doesn't happen often but I have a question. Who cuts your kids hair? I can't find anyone in this pitiful little town that will actually cut my kids hair only Rorie and Rogie. No one will accomadate the wheel chairs or Lilly's autism. I have had my friend cutting their hair for a while but she is moving to Germany in two weeks...what do you guys do? what should I do?

-Nya

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: nyako
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 7:20pm

Me...I can cut everybody's hair but my own.

 


 



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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: nyako
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 6:03am

Hi Nya!

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Registered: 01-08-2004
In reply to: nyako
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 10:03pm
I've seen ads in my local paper from ladies that have thier traveling license and can go into individual homes to do haircuts and such. You may want to check your paper - I think I saw them under Services or Domestic Services offered - or even put out your own ad. Gee, I can't imagine being turned away at the salon because of my kid's disabilites, isn't that illegal? I can only imagine how frustrating this is for you. Let us know what you find.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: nyako
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 2:09pm
Well I am not sure if it is or not but Lilly is a very violent child and she has attcked some of the girls at our one local salon...so they won't take her back. It is up a flight of very narrow stairs and there isn't an elevator and it is impossible to carry the others up their so it just doesn't work!

-Nya

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nyako
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 8:47am
Hi Nya,

Any luck finding someone to cut the kids' hair? Would the school be willing to let someone come in to do it? Our school did that for my dd's class. They had a gal come in to cut the kids hair and told the parents ahead of time so we could send in money if we wanted our childs hair cut. This worked out especially well for one of the boys who didn't do well in unfamiliar places--he was in a comfortable setting with people he was used to.

I just want to say how much I admire you and your family--you guys sound so cool! We have also adopted and lately I'm getting the bug to adopt again. I'd love to hear how you manage more than one in a wheelchair because I am thinking of trying to adopt a child with similar disabilities to my Sydney.

Pam

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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: nyako
Sat, 11-13-2004 - 10:00pm
Hi Pam,

Thanks for the compliments on my family. I think we are a totally cool bunch as well ;) (that or crazy). We have found a place in the next town over that is nice and wheelchair friendly that will cut the kids hair (even Lilly's) We just found this out today when we went out to wal-mart to buy a new keyboard...that store is the best the have everything and so cheap too!. It is getting late here and I am tired and still kinda sick so I am off to bed!

-Nya

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: nyako
Mon, 11-15-2004 - 7:51pm

Hey Pam, can you tell me how you adopted? My dh and I were working on that before we found out we would have to move.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nyako
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 2:55pm

Hi Sandra! We adopted through the foster to adopt program when we lived in Georgia--I believe NC works about the same. Even if you have some doubts, I would encourage you to go thru the process. Even if you go thru the training, you can still change your mind--one purpose of the classes is to decide if this is really for you. You are not obligated to foster or adopt. Becoming foster parents would give you a good idea as to how adding another child would affect your family. It would also give you a feel for the type of needs some of these kids have. I believe that most, if not all, of the children available for adoption would be considered special needs. I think that most people who adopt babies were fostering them then adopted them, so if you're looking for a baby, fostering is the way.

We were looking for a child or children under age 7 to foster/adopt. It took a whole year after our training and home study to get matched with a brother and sister(half siblings)who were 4yrs(boy) and 18months(girl). Probably the most important factor in deciding whether to adopt them or not was how they acted with Sydney. She is totally helpless so there's no way we could bring a violent child into our home. Both of them did wonderfully with her, and still do.

We have had them for 6 years now and most days I'd say that I would do it again. It has been no walk in the park and not at all what I had envisioned. In fact, it has been just like going thru the grieving process of realizing you have a special needs child--life is not what we expected and this isn't what we signed up for, but it is okay. There are lots of things I wish I had known from the beginning because I've had to re-learn parenting for these two. This is just how it has been for us. Very, very hard, stressful, frustrating. Things are feeling somewhat normal and balanced these days but it has been a struggle. I don't think Sydney has suffered any--I think she quite enjoys having more siblings. Sometimes I feel I don't have enough time for Steven and Sierra or they miss out some because of Sydney, but I do the best I can.

Lately I'm feeling like I'm ready to foster/adopt again. I'm waiting for dh to make his decision. But I am getting a bit scared that I'd be taking on too much with another special needs child??? I have the desire but don't know if I can really do it.

Long post, huh? I want to encourage you, not discourage you from persuing this. But I also wanted to give you the truth of OUR experience(not that yours would be the same). There are so many children out there that don't have permanent families--there just might be the perfect one for your family!

I'd be happy to share anything I can with you on this subject--it is one of my favorites.

Pam

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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: nyako
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 4:27pm

Hi Sandra,
I also was a foster parent to each of the kids I have adopted. When I married my husband he was already fostering one child (chris) and when I came into the picture the province let us adopt him. The they asked him if he would like to take on another child with spineabifida who was still quite young until they could find him a home so we said sure and then we had Mark and ended up adopting him our selves and then along came Maria and Lilly the same way. Things here are done a little differently I live in such a small town that there are a total of 5 foster families thats it most people are looking to adopt so when ever they got a special needs kid we got it. We have asked to not be given any more kids with me being pregnant again and so on and I think after #7 and 8 come into the world we will be done for good I can't handle any more! They were desperate here and things have changed now they have joined forces with an agency in a larger town near ours and now the kids are spread out through out the towns and all works well and we arn't as needed any more. That is the sum up of my story. I just want to say that adoption is a wonderful thing It is great for all kids in the family aswell. It has tough our kids not everyone is the same, you can be family and not have the same blood or colour of skin, it has tought them so much and same with my husband and I. We never imagined that we would have this much love to give out to this many children but we do and we are proud of our large family even if other people think we are crazy I think we just have too much love for a small family and I am going to stick with that theory we were meant to do this and love this many children. I know you will know soon if you were too and either way is fine you are lready giving a lot of love to your son who is so amazingly cute and I promise that he is so happy to have you there to love him. I am all for adoption but you have to be the right kind of person. You have to be strong if you want to do the foster/adopt thing. The kids don't always get to sty with you and it is so sad to see them leave when they do we have onl had on leave us and it was very very hard but only a week later Maria came into our lives. I know you will do whatever is best for your family.

-Nya

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: nyako
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 9:33pm

Pam, thanks so much for your information.

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