IEP went well, why am I so frustrated?

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Registered: 01-08-2004
IEP went well, why am I so frustrated?
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Sun, 03-07-2004 - 11:01pm
Hi! I've posted here a few times, but I'm really more of a lurker, so I will reintroduce myself. I'm a sahm to Sammy 6, and Ruby 2. Sammy is developmentally delayed, has learning disabilities, a history of seizures and mental/behavioral problems. The 3 year review was last week. It went really well and I've NEVER said that about an IEP meeting. I usually walk away feeling like a worthless, moronic parent. They agreed to a few changes we've been insisting on for many years, and found her flat feet contribute to her balance and coordination problem and that she is educationally hard of hearing. I've been saying this since she was a toddler and nobody believed me. The problem is I still feel frustrated and sad, like nobody listened to DH and I and nothing was accomplished. But that definitely was not the case. I'm used to feeling like "If it's not one thing, it's another" with Sammy. There is always a crisis, until recently. So, can anyone tell me why I'm so sad when I should be jumping for joy?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 7:55am

I'm sure glad you delurked to post!

 


 



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Registered: 01-08-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:51pm
Thanks! You said what I needed to hear. They are going to put her in adaptive P.E. next school year. She goes to private school kindergarten all day, then to public school for 1 hr of special ed, so they can't accomodate that right now. She has regular PE everyday this year. Public school doesn't have all day kindergarten, something she really needs. Next year she will go to public school. Dh got almost $2 in raises this year, so a scholarship just won't happen and we're very lower class and she doesn't fit in with them at all! They reccomened orthotics also. They haven't decided what to do about her hearing, they might do speakers in the classroom to amplify the teachers voice. I think hearing aids would be a better idea, they're more discreet and we wouldn't have to worry about later years when she switches classes several times a day. They're unsure because they're closing the public schools and building new ones to open in Sept. That bugs me cuz there was nothing wrong with the ones they had and they're always complaining of budget problems. Um, helloo... earth to school officials. LOL Anyways, I'm glad someone else feels like I do, it really helps to know I'm not going crazy!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 8:19am

You still have some say in WHAT will be used and how the accommodations should be made.

 


 



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Registered: 06-25-2003
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 9:13pm

That happened to me once. I think the big let-down for me was that I went in looking for a fight.

-Paula

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Registered: 01-08-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 11:24pm
I think that is what happened to me. DH and I talked about everything we wanted to say, which was alot, then sat there nodding our heads. There were a few issues we had to get tough about, but nothing major. The only thing that really upset me was they kind of blew me off when I asked if she would be ready for first grade. They said "She's made alot of progress..." Well, I already knew that, so I asked if she made enough progress and they just said "If there's a para in the room with her, she will get extra help." The biggest downfall about this school district is they rarely hold kids back even if they need it, so now I'm not sure what to do. I guess they can't make life too easy on us!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 1:59pm
I understand how frustrating it is when the schools tend to just let kids go on...however, if your district has joined the NCLB movement, the expectations (even for children with IEP's) will be much higher.

 


 



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Registered: 01-08-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 10:17pm
Isn't the NCLB movement a federal law or something now. As far as I know they have, its created many problems. A friend of mine went to school for elementary ed. Her parents put themselves in dire straits to help her pay for school. Well, a bachelor's degree isn't good enough to teach anymore around here, so she still works at the same store she did before college. A colleague of hers taught for 20 years and was told she needed to get a masters degree at minimum to continue teaching. Ouch!