Hi there my kids are 3 1/2 years apart so what worked with my kiddo wouldn't work well with yours.I wanted to welcome you to the board and say congrats on your little one.
Have you seen a bumbo seat?Some Targets have them as well as Toys r us and Babies r Us. They are really neat if your dd is small enough she might fit in one. Babies as young as 2 months old can sit in them and they hold them up and they won't fall over. It's a really neat seat.Is there anyone that might be able to help you? Maybe hire a mothers helper that could help you? Neighbors family, or friends that could help?
I think a sling would come in handy.Remember if you where bottle feeding that wouldn't be any easier either you would still be sitting and then you would have to juggle a bottle as well.As what to do maybe have her on one side I did this with my 3 year old and would read him stores sometimes when I nursed his baby brother.Can she sit in a high chair?Maybe put a few toys on there or in a playpen?
Does your dh have paternity leave?I know with mine when the milk came in he was a very quick at nurseing.Are you going to do one side or going to switch?It is actually better to just breastfeed on one side.That way baby will be able to eat more of the hind milk witch is the fatter milk.The the next feed switch to the other breast.Maybe this baby will be an easy nurser. Good luck and welcome.
Yes I do know what you mean about sensory issues.My youngest ds has them and boy it was tough when he was little.He only wanted to be cuddled on his terms when he wanted it. Luckily he loved to be cuddled while he nursed.
He did love to be carried in the sling though. He loves deep pressure and loves to be covered up.Last night he slept in his brothers sleeping bag and went to sleep with out a fuss. I need to buy him his own sleeping bag. He was all covered up and had a pillow on top of him.There is no way I could sleep that way.Maybe baby #2 will like the sling better.
So you really like the bumbo seat?My friend wants one for her third baby.Her
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I have a 5 year old with SN and last August I had another little girl. My 5 year old has severe CP, doesn't walk or talk, isn't continient, doesn't feed herself, has learning disabilities and epilepsy and so I was also dreading it all.
I won't say it was easy, but I coped and so will you. Your second child will never know any different, so if you carry them both to a room, put them both on the floor and play then that will just be "normal" for you all. I think that the one thing you need to make sure of is that there is somewhere safe for your daughter to be placed (even if she cries) so that you can do something in an emergency - like a change a really yukky diaper etc!
I don't have any other children, but I think that what usually happens is the first gets left to get on with things when you have a second, but for us with SN children the second will just slot in and for me I still spend as much time as I can with DD1 - DD2 doesn't mind and now she's old enough to join in.
One thing I would say is this - like you my DD1 is still a baby and always will be - but DD2 is growing up so fast - enjoy your newborn as much as you can, s/he'll be a teenager before you know it!
Please feel free to ask me anything I haven't covered - I can't help with BF as I chose not to, as DD1 ended up being fed by NGT and I needed to know exactly what was going down DD2...