Problems in special-ed K class

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Problems in special-ed K class
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Wed, 08-13-2003 - 1:50pm
Hi,

My daughter Sherina is in a special combo K/1 class for kids with communication problems. She started school on 8/7 and is now starting to have problems. She cried alot the first 2 days, and hasn't eaten any of the lunches I've been sending. She went to a preschool, but it was only for 3 hours each morning; school is from 7:30 to 2. Every day she's come home with wet clothes. I don't know what to do about her not eating; I know she's got to be hungry, as she ate 3 pieces of bread yesterday after school! Could she have an anxiety problem? Sherina's a perfectionist, and has been since babyhood. DH & I have a meeting with her current teacher to learn if Sherina would benefit from a new PK/K class that's also in the same school. Any ideas on how to help her?

Adrianne

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Wed, 08-13-2003 - 10:07pm
Hi,

I feel for you. Your daughter sounds like she could be having anxiety (who wouldn't? everything is new) but I wouldn't call it an 'anxiety problem' just yet unless she is really spinning out of control. It takes awhile to adjust to a situation, and this is still early days.

It is hard for me to give any advice because I don't know what you might have tried. Does Sherina have any language? Have you tried to talk to her about the issues; like what she doesn't like about the food or the eating situation (maybe something like changing her position at the table or giving her a special cup or lunchbox may help? Have you tried having her help with choosing/preparing her lunch and clothes for the next school day -giving her a bit more control over the process? Also, (And please don't take this the wrong way, I'm not casting aspersions on your daughter, but I know my own child does this)children can be a bit manipulative sometimes, and the tears and not eating may be designed to most impact you -panic you a bit and get her out of that class and back to a cushier life?

I hope some of this helps,

good luck

-Paula

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-Paula

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Thu, 08-14-2003 - 10:05pm
Hi, Paula,

My RL best friend & I just talked about that yesterday--how it takes "normal" children as much as 2 weeks to adjust to Kindy. Sherina does have language, and she told me during last night's bedtime routine that "Ms. O. is sad. I don't want to go back to school." I told her that the teachers would miss her, but she just said, "Ms. O. and Ms. P. are sad; they won't miss me." She's always been the type of kid who picks up on other people's emotions and reacts strongly to them, often trying to run to a crying child & comfort him, even if the kid is a stranger to her. Up until Wed., she wanted to ride to school on the bus, eat lunch, and generally had a great time in school; I'm suspecting someone said something to her to change that, but I haven't gotten it out of her. She needs to wear a Pull-Up at night, and tonight she asked me if she could wear one; when I said yes, she responded, "Because I'm a baby?" to which I said, "No, you're not a baby; you just need help doing some things, and some things you can do really well." She never said any more about being a baby.

I give her 2 choices of clothes for the next day, whether it's summertime or school. I started this last year to prevent the tantrums that she started having when she didn't want to wear something. As for eating, normally she eats alot, so that's how I knew something was up--that and the fact that she wasn't her usual happy, active self. She didn't even ask to go to her best friend's house yesterday--big tip-off! She asks for this every day, school or no.

And don't worry aobut your posts--we don't know each other, so we can only guess what's going on! No offense taken--you've helped!

Adrianne

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Fri, 08-15-2003 - 9:01pm
Adrianne,

You just broke my heart! "Mrs. O is sad"! Gosh! Maybe she is. Although where I come from 'sad' is a colloquialism for 'pathetic' so the question rings doubly (!)

It sounds to me like something definitely happened to put her off school. I suppose the big question is: Is the situation salvageable? I don’t know if you've spoken to the teachers and tried to pinpoint the problem(s) to see if they can be addressed. She sounds like a very sensitive child, and I am betting that no matter what school or class she ends up in, you will have to forge a teriffic relationship with the teachers in order to keep things running smoothly.

If you think the situation can be fixed, try to come up with a plan to do so, involving the teachers, and repeating the same message at home and school: Mrs O isn't sad, she is just behaves a little different than Mommy because .... (or whatever message you may deem suitable for Mrs O to repeat!)

Good luck with everything. I guess it's a judgement call on your part, but I would try ad fix it first before moving her. You could end up trading one set of issues for a brand new set.

-Paula

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Sat, 08-16-2003 - 10:47am
Good points, Paula!

DH & I met with Sherina's teacher & the two other Kindy teachers yesterday; I'm going to post the results of that meeting separately. As for something happening to Sherina at school, you're right; we finally pulled it out of her that, on Tuesday, after she'd wet herself, she'd been teased, and since this was the first time, she didn't know how to handle that. She's stayed dry--and I mean NO accidents at school or home!--since Wednesday. Sherina very sensitive, and we're going to work on this. I don't want her to lose that sensitivity, but I'm going to teach her coping skills--words to use when her feelings get hurt.

Thanks for your post!

Adrianne

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