Son, 12, suspended. Again!
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|Thu, 05-15-2003 - 10:59am|
I'm new here...I'm the mom of a 12 y/o special needs boy, he was dx'd with a malignant brain tumor at age 4. The treatment -surgery,chemo & radiation- has left him with residual side effects. Poor balance, slow speech, learning disabilities, poor social skills... etc.
The smallest things set him off, people have a real hard time reading him especially at school. He's been suspended 3 times this year. Two of those times were for hitting another student. The first time he thought a boy hit him with his lunch pail, the boy also special needs pushed his lunch pail down the table and it hit him, he thought it was on purpose...so he popped him in the nose when he came to get it. Yesterday, he got upset because all the other kids got certificates for helping fill bags for the food bank, he said he helped hold the the bag open and thought he should get a certificate too...I understand at first, he had refused to help. So this set him off, as another boy was helping him back to his seat, he thought he was pulling him, he hit him too.
Once he gets in that upset mode, it's hard for him to pull himself back in. People think it's silly, but it's not to him.
So here we are...today he will have no TV, he will do school work all day and clean his room.
Do any of you have any suggestions on ways to make it sink in that being suspended is not a good thing. Hitting is not acceptable, being disrespectful to other kids and his teachers isn't tolerated. I tell him, he understands when he is calm.
Most people don't understand how different parenting a special needs child is. Thanks for letting me vent. I'd appreciate any advice or suggestions.