When you think you aren't doing it righ

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When you think you aren't doing it righ
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Fri, 01-06-2006 - 2:54am

When you think that you aren't a good enough mom... when you think that your child will never appreciate everything that you've done for them... when you've gone through the horrible teenage years... when you are feeling down... This is for all of you to read and keep in your minds and hearts. This is an email that my dd, Felicia, who is 19yo and has an 8 week old dd of her own now sent me today in response to an email that I sent her. It is partly about the father of her dd who I really dislike and maybe even hate, but I feel that that is me. She is the one who has to work through this and find her own path even when I don't like it.

"Thank you so much just reading this email. It gives me hope that I can be strong, that I can do this. It's just a matter of doing it and doing it right the first time. Taking the time to make sure I do it right the first time and looking out for the best interest in my daughter.
"I can only hope that I will be the mother to her that you have been to me so many times, and give her the opportunities that you have given me so many times. I know we all make mistakes, I know because I have made many, but you were there for me in times I have needed you most. Thank you so much for that.
"It sometimes feels like your the only person who stays when everyone else walks out. When everyone hated me to be with Will you still called me, you still talked to me, and you have tried so hard to accept him when no one else does. Thank you."

Yes, I cried... a LOT. :) I think I'll do it again. LOL How many times does a mother get to see or hear these words?

Steph


"In the first place, God made idiots. That was for practice. Then he made school boards."


-Mark Twain


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 01-06-2006 - 9:26am

Steph, that's definitely an email to keep and treasure!

 


 



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Registered: 01-08-2004
Fri, 01-06-2006 - 11:15pm
Oh, that is so sweet - pass a tissue please :)

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Registered: 01-08-2004
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 12:01am

Oh the best thing happened to me, right when I was about to go crazy. I'm sure I've mentioned how wild Ruby is in public and can't be let out of her stroller for a second. Anyways, we took her on the bus to walmart without it (brought it along just in case, LOL). She did pretty good in Walmart, only grabbed twice, said "Excuse me" even if she wasn't in anyones way, and tried to keep up wiht us. She needs to work on paying attention to where we're walking, since she hates holding hands. So most of the trip was spent saying "Ruby, we're over here. Ruby slow down, Ruby catch up. Ruby don't step in front of ppl....." It got old fast, but I had to keep my cool or ruin how well she was doing. Some lady looks at me and said "You're doing a great job, keep it up." WOW! You know Ruby was doing well if other ppl actually compliment us, LOL.
The grocery store didn't go as well, she was tired and she can only be good for so long, KWIM. We popped her in the stroller to get to the few other places we went. We came home and DH was telling her how well she did and she should be proud of herself. She was confused and said "But I was in so much trouble at the grocery store." We both explained she made some mistakes and that's okay, we've never been able to let her out of her stroller at all, so she did do really well. And that lady complimented us, which made us feel good and didn't it make her feel good too?
I realized there is hope yet, maybe she's not destined to be a wild monkey forever, LOL.

Oops, think I just stole your thread, steph!

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 12:49am
Thank you for sharing that :)

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 12:51am
I am so glad that she is making such progress.

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