How do you approach a lousy pastor?
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|Thu, 04-12-2012 - 10:06am|
This has been a long time coming. My husband and I have become increasingly dissatisfied with the pastor at our church. Over the past few years, his behavior has become increasingly worse (in my opinion). From the pulpit he preaches politics, demeans his wife, bases his sermon around a fundraiser, etc. Very non-expository and unbecoming behavior. He doesn't seem to have to answer to anyone. If he decides to do something, he just does it. There is no true leadership in the church. Every group just kind of does their own thing and none of them coordinate with the other. He basically has become the only leader for the ever decreasing youth group and he is currently teaching them his latest fancy....confrontational style evangelism. Our daughter is supposed to join youth next fall and we don't support this focus for a youth group, so we don't want her to join.
Our congregation has continued to decrease over the years and we are struggling financially. For the past year, he has focused heavily on increasing "numbers" of congregants. It seems that the focus has gone away from simply preaching the gospel, serving and loving others to increasing the sanctuary population. DH and I both feel that we should at least go to him with our concerns before "jumping ship", but he is not very approachable. He reacts very defensively in a negative way when you "step on his toes" or disagree with him. Basically, if you don't support him 100%, he views you as against him. I can't imagine my husband and I are alone in our observations, but we aren't sure how to find out if others feel the same way without it seeming like we are trying to undermine him. Do you have any advice on how to approach this situation?