Kid Question

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Kid Question
Tue, 08-07-2012 - 3:56pm
How do you moms of more than 1 keep your kids from fighting each other?? Killian and Ronan are seriously wrestling or pinching or thumping or biting each other all day long. I've tried time outs, I've tried to take away things from them (like no toy room-things like that) and they've gotten a few spankings when they've hurt the other one bad enough to bring blood (which has happened alot!) I'm totally at my wits end here, and to make things worse, the transmission in our car died last week, and we've been stuck at home with no where to go and the kids are going stir crazy. Any ideas on how to make them get along? They love each other to death, it's just that they have to practically fight each other to death, too!
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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 9:39pm
Hmm, tough one because kids are all different, so you have to try different punishments and motivations to see what works the best.

For Tim and Ben, I'll take away a toy they're fighting over or a toy that has been used as a weapon. Sometimes a whole set goes away, like all the blocks or all the train tracks. They're warned a couple times before that happens, but so far I don't count the warnings. Should get on that soon because Ben's close to understanding numbers.

I will also separate them if they keep fighting after things are taken away. Not easy to do because one usually follows the other, so I don't pull that out often yet. It worked for my mum, though. :smileywink:

Usually the fighting means they have too much energy to stay indoors, so I get them outside in the yard or take them somewhere else. That's hard to do with summer heat and no transportation isn't helpful in your situation! Maybe going for a walk, even around the block?

I hope you're able to have a more peaceful house soon. Hugs!

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Registered: 10-25-2007
Wed, 08-08-2012 - 7:20am

Yikes, that sounds stressful.  I'm lucky that my two don't fight really badly.  The worst I have is when one decides they want a toy the other child wants.  I actually used to have bad fighting between JJ and the girl I babysit, Ariana.  She was in a phase where she was biting him, and she even slapped him across the face once.  I finally had to give her a spank on the butt to stop the biting.  As for the smack, she had to sit in the corner for 3 minutes, (her age,) then had to stay there until she was ready to apologize.

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