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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 1:42pm

I thought I'd share this story here just to decompress a bit more (although telling it to DH just got me more riled up) and so you all can see why I was so nervous about having MIL watch Andrew while I'm in the hospital having this baby!

Sometimes when I work from home on Tuesdays, I'll drop Andrew off with MIL for 1-2 hours and I'll go to the nearby coffee shop to work.

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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 5:49pm
I'm sorry things were so stressful upon your return :( Lets face it, sometimes MILs only hear what they want to hear. At least it was only for a short time, and she didn't have him for hours.


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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 6:00pm
Either you have to let it slide and she learns these things on her own, or you have to put your foot down and give her detailed written instructions for his safety and her sanity.

We've done a little of each with MIL and my mother, giving rules for many things we couldn't let slide and letting a few small things go because we decided they weren't a real problem.

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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 8:58pm
Ditto Becca! We've done a combo of literally writing out the directions for MIL and just taking a bit of her craziness. Safety issues I put my foot down, inconvenience issues I let fly.

For instance she does not watch them closely in public & Sean is a bit oblivious...... so we don't allow her to take them anywhere without us. We even refuse to leave carseats home so she CAN'T leave. But then the other night she watched them here & proceeded to whip out complicated crafts she brought with her & left a huge mess. Annoyed me to death but I bit my tongue since it was relatively harmless.

We'll be writing out directions for the hospital stay this time too. The boys can pretty much fend for themselves now but Hannah is still really little. I can picture all kinds of catastrophes where MIL doesn't watch her and she gets into something dangerous. There will be a LONG talk about this lol
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Thu, 09-15-2011 - 7:06am

I already intended to leave very detailed instructions for the hospital stay.

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Thu, 09-15-2011 - 11:23am
And you'll have nurses to help, too!

I think Tim only stayed one full night with the ILs (since Ben was born at 3 am that's the partial night), can't remember for sure at the moment. Hubby missed him and wanted him home, so as soon as he could, he brought Tim back and they had at least one day and night on their own together. I felt more comfortable with that then him staying with the ILs for a long time - all the folks concerned could take care of Tim no problem, but it just seems right that a boy is with his daddy! (BTW, Hubby had never had Tim overnight on his own before 'cause I stay close to home.)