when to stop carrying the kid?

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when to stop carrying the kid?
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Fri, 04-29-2011 - 9:57pm

So now I'm 17 weeks pregnant, getting big, and I have a sore back.

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Fri, 04-29-2011 - 10:21pm

I still carry Xander some.


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Fri, 04-29-2011 - 11:52pm
I found that a very difficult part of the second pregnancy. Sometimes you have to carry them 'cause there isn't any other option. (Like when they're having a tantrum, as Tim did when we'd leave playgroup.) I think when you're not comfortable anymore - and I'm already there with a 30-lb toddler and no pregnancy - you need to find ways to avoid carrying him. Have him walk with you when a diaper change is needed, try for hugs or cuddles on your lap, and have someone else carry him when you can.

I'll be praying for relief from the back pain and some understanding on Andrew's part so that you don't have this dilemma very often. (((Hugs)))

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Sat, 04-30-2011 - 6:53am
I have to carry JJ around a lot! He is a mama's boy, and has a meltdown if I put him down. He is fine when we are home, but if we go to somebody else's house, he won't let me put him down for at least 30 minutes. Once he is relaxed, he'll get down, but I have to be in the room. He is 28 lbs, and my arms are always sore at the end of the day.

I can't remember when Julia stopped being carried daily. She still likes to be picked up and carried once and a while, and she's 4 :)


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Sat, 04-30-2011 - 6:03pm

I'm a big bully.

 
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Sat, 04-30-2011 - 10:47pm
Ben's the same way when we go somewhere unfamiliar. He seemed to think I was traumatising him for life when we visited Sis #2's new house. ;)

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Mon, 05-02-2011 - 8:36am
I still carry Eva and Casey around and I'm 36 weeks pregnant! I also have sciatica pain that is mainly on the right side, but also can be on the left side. I don't ever see not carrying the kids in the future until they are too heavy for me to lift up. Casey is about 24 pounds and Eva is 33 pounds. They don't seem so heavy since I have been hauling them around from day one. It's not like I'm just starting to lift 30 pounds, I've been doing it for almost 4 years gradually! I think that it's just something that you have to change for yourself. If it is causing you pain make sure you don't blame it on the baby just tell Andrew that your back is sore and you can't lift him because he's getting to be such a big boy. I never tell Eva and Casey that I can't pick them up because I'm pregnant....I tell them that I'm too sore or they are getting too big. That's about it for me. :)



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Mon, 05-02-2011 - 1:40pm
Good to know I'm not the only one that still carries my monster of a child! A lot of times when DH carries him, he reaches for me anyway, and somtimes I'm just "mean" and let him cry about it. Oh, and I looked sciatica up, and I don't have that really, just sharp pain occasionally.
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